IMO living in the know implies that your not in denial about your life, the situation you are in, and are to some degree objective about what is going on. That's both inside you and outside of you. It brings to mind the Serenity Prayer for me: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." That made a big difference in my being able to accept, and live in the present. So now I'm happy to play with my 2 Yellow Labs, and they are too!