As the self-help can transform us?
Gradually the person will directing his life to a happier way and that makes sense, while it leaves behind what no longer serves.
We often read or hear of psychologists, therapists and doctors that self-knowledge is important for building a better life with better quality of life. Realize more aware who we are, we understand our search, our fears, our desires, recognizing our potential and weaknesses makes us more strengthened and prepared to deal with ourselves and with others. It may seem simple, but it is not self-knowledge exercise is complex, constant and applies to everyone, too, and especially for psychologists.
I know people who say: But I know why I have this behavior, as I understand in my history which led me to respond to life that way, but I can not change.
Understanding the reasons is a part of self and leads us to understand more clearly some situations and behaviors, but by itself does not generate change. The changes need time, thought, will, courage and new attitudes. Also, look for yourself requires that we recognize our unpleasant aspects or unimaginable, and this is no easy task because often makes us realize that the problem that bothers us so much on the other is also ours.
And the good side?
Yes, there is the good side! Self-knowledge requires, courage and patience, also a willingness to place a priority, even if the person likes and wants to help others. When we put in priority, we gain freedom and autonomy, thus helping others becomes a choice and not the result of guilt or dependency. That is, many people help each other to get rid of guilt or to make something in return, as a way to ensure love and attention. Freedom and choice make the lighter things. The bonds of love are strengthened by trust, not by charging.
Often our decisions and personal searches are not aware, end up being more emotional than rational (even to think otherwise). Realize more awareness the process of what we are seeking and / or compensating in our relations, helps us to decide differently, rather than repeat attitudes that no longer want more. This is true in any area of life. For example, a professional who feels guilty whenever something goes wrong at work and, to compensate, just overloaded functions and stressed.
Not supporting over this situation, the professional search help and starts the path of self-knowledge, and then begin to realize the reasons for the recurrent overload, unconscious gains that have it, which is seeking to offset, if it comes to the current situation or not etc. So when something goes wrong again, he is already able to better analyze the context and yourself and make a conscious effort not to choose to absorb the blame, finding a more satisfactory output. This is the process of change and well-being. Gradually the person will directing his life to a happier way and that makes sense, while it leaves behind what no longer serves.
How to know me better?
In our everyday world, we accumulate more and more duties and responsibilities, we are overloaded with information, collections and live in anxiety we were. Therefore, it is critical we open a space in our day to day for us prioritize, a moment of care with our soul, so massacred by the charges. This personal space is to reload our energies, we have a time for us to understand and respect us, with patience, firmness and very generous.
Self-knowledge does not make the world just easier. It strengthens us to deal in a more positive way with the world, and as it happens we gain self-confidence and motivation to continue.
To walk the path of self-knowledge there are good options. Psychotherapy is a great way to look at yourself and make changes, but there are other ways like meditation, coaching and other alternative therapies. The important thing is to be with a good professional and constantly do a self reflection, if chosen therapy is bringing gains and changes in life, if that path is knowing better, feeling a more complete and fulfilled person.