I think I get where you're coming from and like that you're trying to not blame individuals. More interessting to discuss what I don't fully agree with though. I'm not sure it's really usefull or true to blame this on human nature as we're a truly adaptable species and if we want to change we should perhaps focus on that?

Rather I believe this is part of our current culture. A problem with though leaders in capitalism needing to follow their "validation gang" to grow or even keep their place.

I'm not going to explain my whole ideology here but just wanted to add that their is similar analyses of this kind, just maybe leaning in another direction for conclusions. I'd recommend looking up Peter Coffin on youtube and if you don't find his reasoning horrible try his book 'Custom reality and you'. Just seems to be adressing the things you you've observed :)

I don't expect you to read something a stranger recommends or even watch his videos. I've just been asking myself similar questions on how to best explain our lack of interest for our own lives etc and adding a probably a pretty different perspective to the mix..