MEN ... WHOM THEY LOOK FOR IN WOMEN?

Have you ever thought about who your man sees in you? What role do you play in his life? Whom and for what reasons do men choose their wife? We, women, need to know the answers to these questions so as not to be mistaken in choosing a life partner and not to waste our time on relationships with a man who needs a completely different woman. 

So, there are several common female images in which a man wants to see his companion depending on his own preferences, beliefs (and prejudices too).

Woman hostess. A man who, in the image of his future wife, sees just such a woman, appreciates warmth and comfort most of all. Cleanliness and order in the house, neatly laid out things, starched sheets and a hot three-course dinner are important to him. A quiet homely atmosphere, a delicious smell in the apartment, the evening hours together in front of the TV and a freshly ironed shirt to work in the morning is an idyll for him. Economic women want to see around them those men who work a lot: they just need an island of calm and care at home to rest their mind and body from hard everyday life. Such a man doesn't care how long your legs are and how you dress - the main thing is that you know how to care for him and your home. If you cook well and want to keep home, then this man is for you.

Woman mom. Such a wife is sought by infantile, spoiled by maternal affection, or by men who have not received maternal attention. Representatives of this type expect their future wife to play the role of a mother: take care, take care, pamper him, beloved. Being with such a man, you will have to solve all the problems, large and small, to do almost everything for him and run on tiptoe if he, God forbid, falls ill with a cold. Prepare for the fact that you will give a lot, and in return do not expect anything. Unlike men who prefer female wives who, in response to your efforts at home and caring for her husband, will give you their love and gratitude, infantile types, they are male boys, all they want is to receive it and consider it natural and take for granted. Be careful not to confuse these two completely different men. It is possible to recognize the “boy” by the way he is overly attached to his mother, idealizes her and often repeats that his chosen one must be a copy of his mother. In general, such men are very dependent, indecisive in life, therefore it is not difficult to recognize them.

There is another type of men who are also looking for a mother in a woman - those who have not had enough love from the mother. The reason may be that he grew up with a hard mother, or she was not at all in his life. These men are looking for a “mother” not for her to wipe their tears and snot and do everything for them: they just need female caress, tenderness. Maybe you need more than another man. You can safely build a relationship with such a person - he "thaws" in attentive hands and will be a sensitive husband for you and a caring father to your future children.

Woman psychotherapist. She is sought by men who are unable to solve their problems, both real and contrived. At first it looks quite ordinary: what is it about when a man shares his thoughts, feelings and important questions with his beloved woman? But it is worth considering if you notice that you often listen to your partner for hours, and he still doesn’t stop crying and grumbling at the harsh reality, slowly in doing so to put your advice on solving problems into reality. One gets the impression that he does not want to change anything in himself or for himself, only takes away his soul. In addition, it turns out that listening to your painful he has neither the strength nor the time. He loves to complain about his difficult childhood, difficulties in the past - he often justifies his unworthy behavior: they say, this is how hard life taught me to do. The beaten motive - “no one understands me” - acts flawlessly: having heard a lot, you are in a hurry to make concessions, “understand”, and refute the opinion of yourself as an egoist. All these tricks are just a subtle manipulation of you in order to get something: pity, attention, the desire to do everything for him. You may also have an impulse to teach such a man to believe in life and people, readiness to justify any of his “freaks”, the desire to “correct” him, such an unfortunate, unjustly beaten by fate-villain. Give up, this is a waste of labor: it is actually convenient for him to be an inveterate victim. It would be naive to believe that he will be different with you, you will be able to help him. After all, you are a woman, not a vest or a psychotherapist! Although it is unlikely even a real psychotherapist would endure such a client. 

Woman mother of children. Men with such a perfect woman in her head dream first of all about children. It is important for them to continue their own kind, so a potential wife is assessed in terms of her ability to motherhood. This means not only the ability to conceive and endure healthy offspring, but also the ability to get along with children, a strong desire to have a child (maybe not one), the willingness to devote himself entirely to his family. Such representations of men do not mean that he treats you like an incubator, just for him you will be the mother of his children in the first place, and in the second - a woman beloved. He will honor and respect you, indisputably. If the family is the main thing for you, and you want to have children, bring them up, then you will create a wonderful union with this person.

Woman lover. Such you see those men who have intimate relationships in the first place, or rather, their color and diversity. In a woman, they value above all the attractiveness, softness, ability to “hook on”. With such a macho, you will feel like a Woman with a capital letter, always desirable and charming. The question is whether romance and enchanting sex will be enough for the development of a serious and long-term relationship with the possibility of further marriage.

Woman friend. Some men are looking for women faithful companion, a partner on whom you can rely. Meeting with one of them, he draws attention to such qualities as dedication, ability to support, intelligence, calm temper, and patience. He tries to discern in a woman a person, a reliable and whole person, with whom one can create a strong family in equal positions. Let such a relationship does not imply a great passion (although this, of course, is not excluded), but they guarantee stability, confidence in the future and in each other. The image of an ideal life with a woman for such a man: to achieve everything together with his work, to treat each other with mutual understanding and to spend long evenings for meaningful, interesting conversations. A great option for a woman who knows how to be a friend and needs a strong shoulder and support from her husband, but without suppression and domination over herself.

Summing up, it should be noted that there are no truly correct or incorrect male ideas about women, just as there are no bad or good images of a woman. Everyone, as they say, his, just need to firmly know what you want from another person and what you can give him in return.