The Japanese have a free childhood and a free old age, but they are under great pressure when they are young

Everyone's life is restricted, and our freedom is always limited by certain rules.It is said that we have the greatest freedom in our childhood, because we do not have to worry about the trifles of life, we do not have to worry about the heavy work, we do not have to worry about supporting the family.Others say that we have the greatest freedom in old age, when we don't have to worry about our future career and enjoy the support of our children and grandchildren.

Different countries have different understandings of freedom and different restrictions on freedom.American and Japanese freedom is exactly the opposite.In the book chrysanthemum and the knife, the difference between the Japanese and the americans in their lifetime experience of freedom is described.First, American children are restricted in education from infancy.The sleeping time of the baby is strictly controlled, the time must be strictly observed and the sleeping time must be regular.Babies are also not allowed to touch their bodies, and if a mother sees the baby touching her body, the mother will tap the baby's fingers to stop it.If the baby has reached the age of weaning, it is not necessary to wean the baby artificially even if he is still attached to the milk.Therefore, American infant training is rigorous and full of strict restrictions, which also enables infants to learn to abide by rules and learn self-discipline in life from an early age.If the child makes a mistake, the parents will criticize the child until the child realizes his mistake.This is the concept of education in the United States, so that children at an early age to learn to control the desire, learn to live within the rules.Americans take it for granted that the Japanese teach their children the same way, but the opposite is true.

Japanese children are restricted very little when they are young, parents never repress their children's nature, and children are hardly scolded when they are naughty or make mistakes.Although Japanese children have a lot of freedom in their childhood, once they enter the society, they will face great constraints. Especially in the period of marriage, life and work all put great pressure on Japanese people, making them have to struggle for survival and sweat.But as you get older, that freedom becomes less and less of a constraint, because as you get older, wealth accumulates over time, and so the financial burden becomes less and less, so that the Japanese can live the life they want.In their later years, the Japanese have more freedom because they care less about reputation and act negatively towards life.

But this kind of negative is not pessimistic, but will be the wealth of people and into the light, the more do not pay attention to the reputation of people, people will live in the world will be more relaxed.Americans take their reputation very seriously, even in their old age, they also take their wealth and honor very seriously. Therefore, you will find many elderly americans who are still working hard and struggling for their career at the age of 80.

Although americans are greatly restricted in childhood and old age, youth, in contrast to the Japanese, has a great deal of freedom.Youth is the most energetic and productive period of a person, so American society gives young people the greatest freedom to use their talents and make contributions to American society.When you look at the freedom of americans and Japanese, it's almost the opposite.But I think the most important thing is to be restrained and dance in shackles when you are young. Only in this way can you train the willpower of young people, make us more able to see the essence of life, and learn to insist and never give up.