I agree, but...does God not want to see us live abundantly? If you are dealing with a person who refuses to take responsibility for themselves, at what point is handing them money or a place to live enabling them rather than helping them?

I think it's a good thing for wanting to see a person to actually benefit or grow from your help. But sometimes refusal to help is the best thing that person needs in order to grow. So, I do think it depends on the situation to a certain extent, but I do agree with the basic premise: one should not give in order to receive.