Never Allow People Take Advantage of Your Generosity!
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Sometimes you try to help people, and it backfires on you, and then they try to take advantage of you. Bill Cosby.
Generosity is a good thing. Many might never experience the joy and fulfilment charity or generosity brings, not just to the lives of others, but to their lives as well. Putting a smile on the face of someone is something that I love to do. However, life is teaching me something new - never to allow people take advantage of me.
Wisdom is key to discern. Be wise to know who truly needs help and extend that helping hand, especially during this yuletide season.
Wishing you all a very merry Christmas in advance!!!
Sincerely yours,
Mary.
We are mammals creatures. Cooperation and generosity are very important for our lives. However some people use it for their own benefit. I think the most important way to prevent this behavior is respect.. If someone respects you, help him/her. If he/she does not respect you, this name is not generosity it's exploitation.
Aha! Another key aspect that you've just brought to the fore is respect.
Believe it or not! These group of opportunists, who like to take advantage of others, could be respectful, yet dangerous. As long as they'll benefit from you, respect is assured. When they feel that they have nothing else to gain from you, disrespect sets in.
I am not yet a steem whale, but have helped a lot of Steemians find their feet, especially Nigerians. When these Steemians felt that they had arrived/they are now acquainted with steemit whales, their behaviour changed. Disrespect set in. What they fail to realize is that I'm focused on my set goals and not in competition with anybody. My reason for joining steemit is totally different from theirs.
I am a Turkish writer. I usually write in Turkish. I met you through the upvote you gave me and I am grateful to you.
Steemit has its own meriotocracy system. so my first goal is to create good contents(post), my second goal is to vote successful contents. These are my goal but your reality. You have already created good contents and I'm sure you'll continue to create beautiful contents. I think the issue is that you are bothered, you try to find good contents to vote but then some of them are starting to bother you. I suggest carry on with good smeeters. As a Turkish proverb says "don't burn quilt when you anger a flea"
I hope my English is correct :D
Wish you merry Christmas :)
We must learn to discern who to be generous to and otherwise, some people are so ungrateful that they leave you with just regrets.
Wow you are one person with full of wisdom. I salute you for that.
hmmmm, well spoken madam, you are absolutely right, I think this is where the spirit of decernment comes in, although people who comes to you for assistance believes you are capeable of rendering them such favour, but irrespective of their motives, the giver still remains the one who gain most because it is more blessed in giving than in receiving.
THANKS FOR THE POST
Well spoken. Indeed one needs wisdom to discern who truly deserves one's generosity
Me i don't bother because trying to do so may make you to become heartless person and restless, but i wont recommend you kill yourself trying to render help. If you have don't hold back, give with a clear conscience covering with the blood of Jesus and leave the rest for God.
Though there are people who possess the gift. And no matter what they get in return,their mind wont be settle unless they just stretch out hands to be generous. Is good to be generous but we need to most atimes decern the extent to which we should express our generousity
yeah..you are right..Generosity is Good but most times people tend to take advantage of us. Life here in college points to that direction, a fellow student will act as if he doesn't have anything but after out of a good heart you give the person what he asks for but at the end you get to find out that person has that particular thing abundance and is just saving it up.
It is good to be generous and is much better to do generously to those that will appreciate it.
Yes, this is right on point.....
Personally, I know everyone have one thing or the other that they need help for....
But their are some people who never deserve a single penny from you, but they will be after you running for many things because they knew who you are or heard about you as a free giver.
I think we need wisdom to know who really deserve to be helped.