This resonates for me. I also consider myself somewhere on the ace spectrum, and I also don't have a gender preference, and I feel sexual attraction in emotionally committed relationships only. I've been told that I'm a "demisexual;" someone whose sex drive depends on emotional attraction. When I'm out of a relationship, I feel absolutely no sex drive whatsoever. It's oddly alienating, because it suddenly becomes so obvious how driven by sex everything else in the world is, and I no longer feel like a participant. I feel just generally grossed out and uninterested, like there's nothing less appealing than having someone's sweaty body on me. Ugh. It's confusing because not having a gender preference adds another layer of complication. I have no expectation about who I'll be attracted to and when, and it feels like it has no rhyme or reason. But gatekeeping is complete and utter horseshit when it comes to sexuality. Identify however you want.