IT DOES NOT HURT TO FORGIVE!!!
"It does not hurt to forgive". Easier said than done right? Especially if you have been in a situation where someone hurt you really bad. Everytime you see this person who hurt you, you get so mad especially if you have not forgiven them.Forgiveness might be difficult, but I am saying it does not hurt because it sets you free.
To learn how to forgive, you have to learn what forgiveness is not. Forgiveness is not pretending like the incident never happened or excusing the person for their actions. Forgiveness is not forgetting what the person did to you. Forgiveness is not something you do for the other person,forgiveness is something you do for yourself. Forgiveness is a decision and not a feeling. Your decision to forgive someone should superceed the pain that you feel because of what they did to you.
Now that you know what forgiveness is,whenever forgiveness feels impossible. Try these three steps;
1) Acknowledge that you have been hurt:In other to forgive, you have to accept what happened, you have to acknowledge that you have been hurt. Pretending that you were not hurt or ignoring your feelings will not make you feel any better. To be able to forgive, you have to accept how you feel about the situation.
2)Accept the growth that occurred as a result of what you learnt from the incident:There must be something you must have learnt from the pain someone caused you. It could be how to set your boundaries or how to treat others better. Accept what you learnt and the thankful because it's going to help you grow. You know what they say, "every challenge we go through,makes us stronger".
3)Put yourself in the shoes of the person that hurt you:No one is perfect, we all make mistakes,sometimes they don't just know how to treat us better. Because of this, learn to cut them some slack and consider forgiving them.
Always remember that forgiveness does not hurt rather it sets you free from being bound to what happened and it shows that you deserve to be happy and are willing to do something about your happiness. Yes, you will remember what happened even after you have forgiven the person,but if you have genuinely forgiven the person,you will not feel any resentment or have any ill feelings towards them.
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I can truly say that your post really meant something to me. I have just very recently learned to truly forgive people and have found such a freeing feeling when doing so. There is no reason to walk around with so much resentment, life is to short to hold grudges and hate. I really enjoyed your article! thank you for sharing
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howdy @kweenbrand this fine Saturday night! this is an excellent post with so much wisdom and great advice. I agree about forgiveness, most of the time it's so hard to forgive that we have to make a mental decision and then later the heart and spirit will follow...in time..but it IS indeed freeing for yourself. God bless you kweenbrand!
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a really good post! thanks for sharing your thoughts and insight in forgiveness. resentment and holding grudges can eat away at you and affect your life, so moving on is always the best thing to do, as hard as it might be.
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Very inspiring!
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Thank you for your inpowering post @kweenbrand :) <333
As I am working through forgiving myself for having given my power away recently, I am especially thankful to be reading this today.
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