Fear is the main ingredient of a “victim mentality”, and courage is the primary medicine.
Do not blame yourself either. If something went wrong, focus on how to fix it instead of why it happened. Look at children - when they trip and fall on the playground, they cry for a bit, then just get up and keep playing, instead of blaming themselves for being clumsy.
I love that! I didn't think of it in that way.
I agree Focus on solutions rather than the problem. It helps a lot.
Great comparaison with kids, always looking forward, not backwards!
Everything can be seen as an experience we can learn from, that's what we've been doing since childhood..