I totally agree that it is so important to have people around you that understand, most of my friends and family do but sometimes they get really bummed out if my sleep or IBS gets in the way of our plans but mostly they are very understanding. I have sort of accepted that I have issues and have to live my life with them but I also know most of them are hopefully not chronic. I'm sorry to hear about your SO's fibromyalgia, I know of some friends who suffer from it and it sounds like hell. It is great that you manage to be so understanding, my ex did his best but sometimes it was just so hard when he couldn't even after I explained several times.

And that tip might help! I used to imagine being alone on an island and thinking of ways to survive, and it might sound stressful but it was actually really calming. Will start to attempt to see some landscapes, rather than thinking them and hopefully it will help a bit :) thanks!