Hi bigdave2250,
You seem like a really nice guy and this is a very brave and honest post. I am 52 and single. I think about this, too, and I am actually single by choice, because I self-protect. I think you will meet someone when you become involved in the community in some way. I live in the rainforest, and I connect with the trees and they make me feel part of nature, so being single doesn't bug me. I was married for 25 years. I don't enter relationships lightly. I don't/can't "use" people. Think and act outside of yourself and it will happen. Technology gives us connections so we are constantly interacting, but finding "the one" is, I feel, best done through a physical common space. Like, my son (26) recently met a girl from overseas while rockclimbing. He is making plans to join her in a couple of months when they will be holidaying together in Vietnam, testing whether or not they will have a longterm future together. I'm thinking about going whitewater rafting in November. Maybe I'll meet someone there? The person for me must have a 140 plus IQ, preferably tattooed on his forehead (kidding). You don't usually just bump into them at the cafe on a Saturday morning :) but you might meet them trekking through Nepal.