7 Reasons why relationships fail
One of life’s greatest joys is having a loving and committed relationship. The individuals in a relationship desire to settle down and always pray that the relationship lasts a lifetime. Despite this, however, about 40% of relationships or even marriages end with a divorce.
Heartbreaks are also very commonplace among unmarried couples. Is there something that is wrong somewhere?
In reality, relationships do not take care of themselves without the input of the individuals involved. For a relationship to stand the test of time, it requires self-awareness, commitment, willingness, and unselfishness to grow. No matter the ups and downs of life committed relationships will survive. But some behaviors and patterns can bring about permanent damage.
Here are seven reasons why relationships break up or fail.
Trust issues
Loss or lack of trust is a very dangerous phenomenon that can truncate any relationship, no matter how long-term it is. When trust is lost in a relationship, two of the major anchors in it are lost: security and safety. Trust issues could arise as a result of several factors like broken promises, lack of dependability or reliability, jealousy, unreasonable rigidity, emotional infidelity.
Not making the relationship a matter of priority
This usually happens over time, especially when the kids start coming. The truth of the matter is that loving relationships take daily commitment and work. When the couple gives no time for intimacy, the desire for copulation dies down. If you no longer talk to your partner about your dreams and hopes, you start becoming distant without meaning to do so.
When a couple doesn’t make out time to engage in activities that will strengthen the bond between them, they start living separate lives. Finding common ground becomes a challenge, especially in the lives of the children.
Infidelity
It is always assumed that cheating is the primary reason why most relationships fail. But it will surprise you to know that there is only about 6% chance of unfaithfulness or infidelity in any year of a modern-day relationship. This result is based on statistics obtained from heterosexual couples. But over the years, that number may rise to 24% over the lifespan of the relationship.
Complacency
This is another common cause of breakups in relationships. One of both partners may begin to think that the relationship is heading nowhere. For married couples, this situation rears its ugly head immediately after the honeymoon phase comes to an end. Once they fall into a rhythm or way of life, the relationship may begin to go downhill from there.
Different expectations
The elements that bring a couple together in the first instance is physical attraction, common interests, sexual passion, socio-economic backgrounds, and personal connections. But over time, their expectations may begin to set the relationship apart, and each starts focusing on private interests instead of mutual interests.
Poor communication
This is the number one factor that can make or break a relationship. It is the most powerful and the most effective attribute any relationship can have. It is also one of the primary reasons why relationships fail. When you don’t resolve conflicts or have problems communicating with your partner, there is no way any relationship can survive that.
Conflicting goals
A lot of loving relationships have hit the rocks because the two individuals involved are not going the same way regarding goals or purpose. It is possible that they once shared similar life goals, but down the road, something changed, and the goals did, too.
It usually starts with one partner changing some political or religious views which doesn’t sit well with the partner and this could bring about a clash of wills. If they cannot reach an agreement regarding a mater such as these, the relationship is headed for failure.
Can you indentify another reason?
All very important factors in a relationship. Another one that comes to mind is the idea of evolution and monogamy. Through our natural evolution men attempt to mat with as many partners as possible to pass on their genes, while women look for the strongest (most genetically fit) male in order to procreate strong offspring. However in modern day the idea of monogamy was started (likely by the church) which goes against our natural evolution. This is a very interesting subject. Is it any wonder that over 50% of Marriages in North America now end in divorce
If I may contribute with some of my own thoughts and experiences, I'd gladly share them.
Trust Issues
Having trust issues about your partner means that you don't really know the person that you're having a relationship with, therefore the problem is in how much the partners know each other.
Not making the relationship a matter of priority
I have experienced this first hand. At first I was so fired up about the relationship, so engaged in it. But as more time passed, everything started to get the outlook of routine which eventually contributed a lot to the break up.
Different expectations
That's why, if looking for a long-term relationship, we have to know the given person on a Mental level. We have to get to know what they're all about, what direction they're going with their Life, they're aspirations, passions, so on and so forth.
Poor communication
Have experienced this as well. When first getting in a relationship it's a really healthy habit to speak openly about what you do like and what you don't like about the partner. In this way we avoid to let little things that they're annoyed about grow such a charge inside of them, which can eventually lead to the break up.
Conflicting goals
For me, this had to do with Mentality. I'm, although I don't like labeling, quite Spiritual. lol
And the woman I was with was heavily into materialism. The kind of where buying things are the center of their happiness.
Such a great post brother @JWolf. I can tell that you've experienced some of them first hand. We all do, and it's good because it helps us grow.
Thanks for sharing :)
Great job man, thank you for your comment! I upvoted your latest video instead of this comment!
These reasons are very well chosen! It is clear that you have experience in relationships
trust and infidelity are the biggest drawbacks for any relation , the other can be overcome easily but this two takes a lot of effort and work to resolve
Outstanding post about relationship. I like your activities. Thanks for sharing
great analysis........... @jwolf
The lack of money and the lack of knowledge of the family from which it comes, because it comes from there with the ideas in the new family / relationship.
Wow great post!! Thanks for sharing this information that most of relationship fail!! It great to see those reason!!!@jwolf
I think the most important is trust @jwolf
most things you can overcome, important is trust and that both can do the things you like but trust each other.