The Pain of One-sided Love and Its Bitter Effects - What Effects onSteemians

Kritika Kukrej stated that the pain of one-sided love could be excruciating. She advised that the victim of one sided love should try to be at one his/her best around them and to do everything in one’s power to change their minds. But more often than not you will be making matter worse because it will look as if you are forcing yourself on someone who has not single feelings for you. In short a non-reciprocated love is the most terrible thing to get over because you have absolutely no idea whether you should just leave it alone or try harder to make them like you. In most cases, it will end up consuming one both mentally and emotionally.

It’s so difficult to get them out of your mind. They are there when you wake up, when you drink tea, in the shower, on your way to work, during work, while talking to someone, while giving a presentation, walking, laughing, and the last thought before you sleep. Hell, they creep into your dreams too by Devisha Tayal.

Someone once told me that she joined steemit because of the love that exists here but now, to her it seems that the love is becoming one sided. I tell you of a truth that the effect of one sided love on steemians is that many people joined who joined steemit out of love but when that love is not reciprocated, it could be devastating. Take for instance, members upvote, comments,etc are like returning one's love but when your interesting posts, so you think, perhaps because you are not known, you are left without upvotes or comments, the love becomes one-sided, that's the way I look at it. Please read further what one-sided love could do to a person.

Some love experts have it that being stuck in a place where you can’t get the person you love to love you back can be exhausting and people feel frustrated about such situation; one tend to feel inadequate and sense of inadequacy make one angry and to seek revenge. But you will agree with me that it is not possible for one to take revenge against a person you are so much interested in, which tend to make one even more helpless.

The worst situation is a situation where some pretend to love you when in his/her heart of heart he knows very well that he/she does not love you but because of family ties. You discover that in the long run the relationship will crash beyond amendment. What will you do at that point as you are aware that it is more difficult to walk out of a broken relationship.

Devisha Tayal still thinks that love is not supposed to be hard. It’s supposed to flow. You have to be uplifted by it, not broken down. You loved someone, they loved someone else. And what you should know is that they were not the one. It’s the bitter truth. Your person is waiting for you. You have to let go of this to move on to the path of discovering the beauty of love.

It’s not easy though but it is the hardest thing you’ll do. But let me tell you how much you’ll feel alive after it. You will glow, and you will grow. You will find your way.

It is necessary to understand the fact that rejection is not permanent. Unless you understand that unless one road closes, a better one cannot open, it is then you will begin to appreciate the fact that no condition is permanent. First and foremost, there is the need for you to believe in yourself that a better and more exciting relationship is on the way. However, do not allow the negativity of rejection consume the positive qualities in you. Some people make a serious mistake of allowing depression take the better part of them just because they cannot get the person they wanted and by so doing tend to push every other good person that come their way out of their life. Before they realize what is happening, they would have lost their beautiful and useful ages, regrets will be the next thing.

One do not have to brood over spelt milk, instead pick up the broken pieces and forge ahead without looking back, for sometimes you win, sometimes you loose.

Conclusion

In conclusion, I liken one sided love to steem blogging, sometimes you post is seen trending and sometimes you may not get up-votes or comments on your post, will you then stop blogging because of it, the answer is no. And I say to you, forward ever, backward never. You time is in front of you, do not give up because at the time may want to give up may be the time you luck will shine.

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Thanks to Devisha Tayal and Kritika Kukreja for part of the materials used in blog.