Be positive, it is the key to success

Have you asked yourself what is the key to success?

According to Nathaniel Branden, self-esteem is the sum of trust and respect for oneself. People who have high self-esteem feel fit for life: they have a feeling of ability and a feeling of personal worth. Self-esteem is the basic requirement to enjoy a full and well-being life.

To raise our self-esteem we must move forward little by little, committing ourselves to action. You have to be active, strive to live consciously and not fall into easy passivity. We can follow the following steps:

1.- Learn to accept. Self-acceptance is the prerequisite of the change. Without self-acceptance we will not be able to improve. An attitude that makes irrelevant the approval or disapproval of others is necessary. "Accepting" does not necessarily mean "liking oneself", but simply accepting reality, being aware of it. If we believe we have defects, we must accept it, because this is the beginning of the way to rectify them. By accepting ourselves, we avoid being in a struggle with ourselves.

2.-Free ourselves from guilt. Guilt subverts positive self-esteem. Happiness requires that we do not surrender to guilt, but that we free ourselves from it. Give in and feel miserable is the most comfortable. What it takes effort and will is the opposite, to seek happiness.

3.- The integration of the youngest self. All adults keep something of the child we once were. The sufferings experienced as a child remain in the unconscious, and can make adults reject this child and their experiences. In this war with ourselves, life becomes a series of acts of self-rejection, while we complain that it is the others who do not love us. We must learn to forgive the child we have been to find inner peace.

4.- Living in a responsible way. People with high self-esteem live life actively and not passively. They assume responsibility for their actions. They do not expect others to make their dreams come true. Being responsible is to be the main causal agent of one's life and behavior. It is clear that responsibility requires effort.

5.- Living coherently. The inner self and the self that is offered to others must agree. If we do not live authentically we end up being the first victim. People with self-esteem can say yes when they want to say yes, and not when they want to say no. Being consistent we not only honor ourselves, but we transmit this positive energy to the people with whom we deal.

Self-esteem is precisely the antithesis of narcissism. Narcissism is a state of permanent self-observation, which has its origin in a deep feeling of insufficiency and inner lack. Narcissism implies pettiness, belligerent competitiveness, predisposition to attack, etc., attitudes that hide weak egos. Self-esteem, on the other hand, implies respecting oneself, and thereby respecting others.

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