I totally agree with you, it becomes clearer everyday and I see it as a growth process learning to handle situations that are filled with intense emotions, some people are well aware of others vulnerability in such situations and just manipulate these people by turning them into prays, not that they are not aware of the situation that they find themselves but they try to do something good like saying sorry even when they are not at fault or going all out to get sad experiences out the window not really concerned about how much effects in could have on them. It would have been very easy to act like everyone else by having no emotions to how their actions affect the next person but some people are just not wired that way. Expressing love should come naturally it doesn’t stop anyone from experiencing self-love.