What the hell are you doing with your life?

In this world where change is the only constant, have you decided what to do with your life? Have you chosen which goals to follow to be happy and fulfilled? And if you chose, is it best for you?

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As children, we have been taught that we can be all we want in this world. "You can be an astronaut, a racing driver, a lawyer or a president. You can be become whathever you want!" But nobody taught you how to choose and what we should do to be what we want.

And all this has been creating just get people frustrated because they do not know what to do in front of endless possibilities.

And the world is changing too fast.

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The world is changing faster and faster. With the emergence of new technologies, the way we interact becomes overnight. Expressions like taking self, like it, or send an audio, among many others, are already part of the vocabulary, and did not exist before.

With this, professions arise all the time and others become obsolete and disappear. Lifestyles are also outdated.

The figs in the tree

A passage from The Bell Jar, from Sylvia Plath, speaks explains the urge of choices for life:

I saw my life branching out before me like the green fig tree in the story. From the tip of every branch, like a fat purple fig, a wonderful future beckoned and winked. One fig was a husband and a happy home and children, and another fig was a famous poet and another fig was a brilliant professor, and another fig was Ee Gee, the amazing editor, and another fig was Europe and Africa and South America, and another fig was Constantin and Socrates and Attila and a pack of other lovers with queer names and offbeat professions, and another fig was an Olympic lady crew champion, and beyond and above these figs were many more figs I couldn't quite make out.

I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn't make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.

There are so many options in the world that sometimes we do not know what to choose. However, the variety is large, and if we do not choose it, the chances of it going right go down until it dies. The path that seems to be good but we do not go through are taken by trees until there is no more way

The choice is difficult. We can imagine ourselves doing so many things andt we do not want to give up none of possibilities. But you have to choose.

Do you have grit?

And even so, in order to be fulfilled in life, you must tirelessly pursue your goal. It takes grit, which is well explained by Angela Duckworth, Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance:

Grit is about holding the same top-level goal for a very long time.

Malcolm Gladweel in Outliers says that in order to be really good at something, or we could say near perfection, we need to devote 10,000 hours to the work. Sounds like a lot, and it is. You have to love to spend all this time on something.

And now?

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Despite all the possibilities, the best thing to do is choose. Choose what you like to do, what makes you feel fulfilled, and try. Have grit. If you keep going, even in front of the stones on the way, one day you will triumph.

Have you already chosen a path? Already have clear objectives? And if so, how do you know if this is best for you?

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Originally posted on my blog: https://sadnessview.wordpress.com/2018/02/17/que-diabos-voce-esta-fazendo-com-sua-vida