Spice4Life - Music and Chat show - recap of 14 Oct - Part 2
This is the recap of the 2nd half of my show, Spice4Life on mspwaves.com
If you want to know what I did in the first half here is the link:
https://steemit.com/radio/@hope777/spice4life-music-and-chat-show-recap-of-14-oct-2018-part-1
So were are talking about happiness.
Last week we talked about Happiness is a choice.
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Today I am discussing the second step to happiness and that is that happiness is an ATTITUDE OF MIND!
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Wayne Dyer
It is the way we react to our problems that create our state of mind.
We have to decide if we are going to let the problem take over and be negatively affected or acknowledge the problem and see if you can solve the problem.
So the problem stays the same whatever we feel about it but how we react to the problem can make a big change to your state of mind and your life. To not think or worry about the problem doesn’t mean you are neglecting it, it just means that you are taking control and you will find the right time to think about it and how to solve it. Worrying and thinking about the problem the whole time is very bad for us. Your mind goes in endless circles what am I going to do? What I am going to do? If you manage to change your attitude and put it aside for a while “compartmentalize” it for now then you can go on with your daily work, routine etc.
I am going to play now, You are enough, by Sleeping at last and this Alternative Indie was released in 2013.
and then Collective Soul, an American Rock band with their song, Shine, that was released in 2009.
But if you decided that you are going to be a happy person and live a happy life, then you are determined that nothing is going to destroy your happiness.
So if something upsetting happens and you can do something about it, then you can take action and do it. But don’t start to worry or get angry if you can do nothing. Just try to accept it and move on. Everything happens for a reason even if it is only to let us grow in life. Does that mean that you have to be happy 24/7. No of course not, you are not a robot, but just don’t dwell on the bad things because you made a choice to be a happy person.
The happy guru says he managed to do this and if he can do it, anyone can change their attitudes for the better. You must take action, you must practice this every day when stuff happens. Things don’t change automatically. Practice changing your attitude about what is happening.
Next up: Rachel Platten with her 2014 Fight song which is a pop song and then Echosmith - with the song Bright that was released in 2013
Then I come to the Love and Marriage segment of my show.
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Research shows that happy couples have more emotional intelligence than unhappy couples. Don't despair as you can practice becoming more emotionally intelligent.
It is about self-awareness. Start to tap into your feelings. Know how you feel and what made you feel like that.
Practice this daily to be aware of how you feel. If you start doing this and practice it, it becomes second nature.
Start to notice how you behave.
Does the way you behave has positive consequences or does it affect your life negatively? You have to become very honest with yourself.
The most challenging step and also the most helpful is to take responsibility for your feelings and behavior.
It is your feelings and your behavior. If your spouse makes you angry and you shout at him/her you are responsible for that. The other person can not make you do things. Stop and get your emotions under control. If you can manage to control how you feel and react, you will see the positive results in your marriage.
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I am playing now a song by Ray Lamontagne, Let it be me, released in 2008 and the genre is singer-songwriter.
Then Lady Antebellum with the 2008 country song: I run to you!
Practice to respond and to not react.
Reacting is where you experience an emotional trigger and you behave in a way that relieves the emotion. Often we react in a way that doesn't have a positive outcome. If your spouse reacted back it can go over into a full-blown fight. This closes the communication channel.
When you respond you experience an emotion for instance anger, but you don't just shout at your spouse. You recognize your emotion but decide how you going to respond to it. For example, If your spouse is doing something wrong, you will tell him/her, I don't like it when you do that because it makes me feel this way. If you respond, it opens up the channel for communication. You can see how responding and not reacting can benefit your marriage.
Practice having empathy with yourself and with others.
It is to put yourself in someone else shoes, try to think how they feel and how would you have felt if you were in the same position and have empathy with others. With yourself, identify the emotion and ask questions, why I am feeling like this, what triggered it? Sometimes you will maybe say, I don't know but keep on practising it and more answers will come.
Let's listen to What is love? by Max Oazo ft Cami and then Corine Bailey Rae put your records on.
Remember that emotional intelligence is a life-long process. It is not something you can learn overnight and then you are perfect in it. You keep on developing and practising it. I am sure everybody heard that people that are older say,: I am calmer now that I am older, things that stressed me up, don't stress me anymore. That is nothing else than emotional growth that happened while you were growing older.
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A happy marriage is equal to personal happiness.
It makes you feel loved, secure and respected. It is worth the effort to practice to improve your emotional intelligence in order to stay happily married. That is after all why you got married in the first place to have a life-long friend and partner till the end of your life.
That is my story for today girls and guys. Thank you for tuning in, listening and chatting with me here in the audience. I really enjoyed this time with you. Hope to see you next week same time, same place, MSPWaves the place to be.
I will play out with The Corrs - Would you be happier and then Meghan Trainor, All the ways.
Bye bye all!
You can listen to my full playlist that I compiled for the show here:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLAIdexPULB6OSov56zCKy1l-zbIB1uWSY
Sources: https://howtobehappy.guru/
http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-practical-ways-improve-your-emotional-intelligence.html
https://steemit.com/psychology/@hope777/love-and-marriage-14
