Some Steemians write posts where I can conclude that they are looking for love and perhaps they don't know how to find love. So here I am, writing a post about online dating. My husband is so not going to like this post but there is no reason for it because it has a happy ending. Me and my husband found each other online. It wasn't a dating site but more a social media platform like Facebook but then for Dutch people living in the Netherlands called Hyves.nl. A friend of mine begged me somewhere in 2007 to make a Hyves account so I can stay in touch with her and our past class mates that she wanted to show how they looked back then. I refused couple of times because I wasn't into social media. After so many times hearing her begging I finally made an account to make her happy. I remember that I used this pictures as my profile picture:

So I met some classmates from the past but I also received messages from some guys who seemed to like me and wanted to know me better. I refused them all because they looked like players in my eyes. One of the guys was my husband saying: you look very beautiful. I was like: Uhhh, whatever! I didn't pay much attention to it. This was his profile picture:

Months passed and it was summer 2008. My friends were all on summer holiday travelling but I decided not to go and just worked more days as a waitress and going to the gym. I felt a bit bored so I replied my husband's old message from months ago. He replied very fast and soon we spoke on the phone. It was very funny to hear him speaking English because he has a German accent. Shortly after we spoke we met each other in Amsterdam City. We fell in love and we had a relationship. Few months later we engaged. We kept it simple because we simply didn't have the money to make it big, but we also didn't feel the need to make party or so. After our engagement I had to go to Singapore to NTU( Nanyang Technology University) to do my exchange program for 4/5 months. He visited me in Singapore and after I returned from Singapore we got married and he bought a house, a small apartment for us. Happy ending! ;-)

Many people would say NO to online dating saying that there are too many psycho's. Yet, when you ask them if they ever tried they say no. Ofcourse there are psycho's or people who pretend to be someone else. I tried online dating a few times simply because I didn't find anyone I liked on the streets. Once there was a guy who didn't have a profile picture saying he still have to do that, but we spoke 2 weeks on the phone. So I just had to visualise how he looked. He had a very beautiful voice. 2 weeks have passed and he finally put a profile picture and my heart was broken. He didn't look like I visualised him! I was crying for days and it reminded me of Catfish MTV.

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Tips for online dating

Love should be for free, so don't go to dating sites where you have to pay and get scammed

Ok, love is not totally free, the price is your heart ;-). What I actually mean is that there are dating sites where you have to pay for messaging someone. I have seen on television some scammers where they do that. So don't trust those dating sites where you have to pay for messaging the person you really like so much.

Don't give your address

How matching this person can be to you, don't give your address to him/her. He/she might be a thief trying to manipulate you.

Don't chat for a long period

Don't chat for too long, especially with only a picture. If that person or you are not able to meet within weeks, you might be broken hearted if you find out this person uses a fake profile picture. Try at least to skype each other if you both cannot meet but are really starting to like each other or falling in love.

Meet in public

If you both are ready to meet each other, remember this rule! You don't know this person yet, so the best is to meet in public like a cafe or restaurant. Avoid quite parks and don't meet the person at your own place/house in case he/she is a psychopath.

If you are still scared to try online dating, then remember that anyone can be a psychopath. Someone can change from being so lovely into a psychopath. Not everybody you meet online are psychopaths and not eveybody you meet offline are not psychopaths.

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