Why is being nice so under-rated?
Nice people are cool. Nice people rock. So why are so many people determined to be rude all the time?
I've been encountering a few people lately who come across as rude, abrupt, uncaring.
Insensitive. Petulant. Self-obsessed. Arrogant.
You probably know the type.
They are so removed from reality, or perhaps so convinced of their own self-importance, that I'm pretty sure they don't even notice what wankers they are (wankers is an Australian/NZ/UK term for people who are rude, abrupt, uncaring, insensitive, petulant, self-obsessed, arrogant or haughty).
I don't think I'm a wanker. I certainly try not to be.
And the good news is that there is a solution for these people. It's called being nice.
You see, I've been struggling with the idea of how to confront these people. I don't want to just call them a wanker - it seems counterproductive (and rude, dare I say).
I've thought about saying, for example, can you try to be a bit less arrogant and self-obsessed? It's a bit off-putting and doesn't paint you in a very positive light.
Or perhaps I could say, you are very insensitive and come across as crass and rude.
Where what I really want to say is why do you think it's cool to be rude? Can't you at least try to be nice sometimes?
I know. I'm sounding my age I think. But I don't care. Nobody enjoys being around people who treat them badly. Not even wankers. People like being around nice people.
Ask a little kid if they like nice people. I know the answer.
So, I ask again: why is it uncool to be nice?
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I'm a total wanker - I've been aware of it for sometime and my New Years resolution was to be less of one in 2018, but I don't think I'm doing too well. I've now referred to myself 6 times in two sentences :|
You on the other hand @DrWom, are a great guy and I hope I haven't wankered myself into your wanker box!
It takes dedication to be a total wanker,
half a wanker will aways feel like you left the job unfinished
we know how unsatisfying that can be
never hold back, pull out all the stops
total wankerhood is a possibility
why argue with just one person
when you can be a Mass - debater?
Hahahaha
I see what you did there 🙃
This post was brilliant and insightful
Love the way you posed it from a place of curiosity, rather than righteousness
a pleasure to find you on Steemit.
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the people that make the content
the appreciation that gives it value
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I don't think you're a wanker, Bulleth. You just tell it how it is. S'good.
Its ok to shine, we won't cut you down brother :)
Maybe being nice seems like a predictive behaviour and people tends to see those set of people as only simple, inexperienced and don't know about life kind of person. That seems to drive the reason why they are treated in such a bad way
I try to remind myself that everyone is doing the best they can at that moment in time. And a moment of wankerhood does not equal a lifetime of wankerhood. They could just be having a bad day. I don't know what their dealign with in life or the situation that has led them to become a master-wanker, if they are particularly consistent. (You can tell I, as a Canadian, I am enjoying using your term.) If I am really present I choose to lead by example and be the change I want to see and all that. But most of my time, I choose to place my focus on that which brings me more contentment. Being nice feels good and it is its own reward:)
Nice writing keep it up.
awesome cute photo.
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good post mate. Sadly its true though. Being nice is a rarity. Seems the only way to get ahead these days is to be a wanker though :(
😂😂😂😂😂😂Bro.. Next time while posting ur post try to reduce ua text n minimise it bcz i can't read this much of matter😁 bt however keep it up
Really nice story bro... 😍
In the current reality of life, if your nice everybody will take advantage of you. I learned that the hard way. Get everything they can squeeze out of you. In their eyes your life a deer from a lion's eye.
I think people do not want to be close someone because of they afraid to get hurt.Being rude seems cool on their eyes but they do not want to behaved themselves like that.Selfishness is the key of rudeness..sadly..