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I do not know you, but often times I miss when I remember some people.

Although I not want them back in my life. This feeling is quite common when we had dysfunctional or unresolved relationships. When we go through relations of this kind we left hurt, injured, in short, emotionally shaken. There are people who go out up to physically injured. The fact is that when this happens to us we interrupt our evolution and we have to make a superhuman effort to get back well again. 

It is not an easy process to see where and how we contribute to the downfall of a relationship, but no one is only a victim and not even only culprit. We lack clarity to see how everything that we pass will interfere in our life from now on. And often it interferes too much, particularly in future relationships.

It happens. Out of nowhere something reminds us of that person with who we had an unresolved relationship, then we miss and makes you want to call to find out how is life, if dreams have been ahead, to chat, anything but We contain because we know that person can not add anything positive to our life at that time. We give up. We know deep down that things will not be like before, never will be, time passed and with it everything that could go right.

As much as we do not like to admit it, we feel the weight of these dysfunctional relationships: one time or another it always comes. We feel this need to want to mitigate the unpleasantness that cause the absence of that person that one day we was estimated, but that went out of our lives or because we decided to prioritize our well-being, or because the situation was already unsustainable, or simply because we have been severed by different paths.

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It is very healthy feeling that such longing

What changes is that we do not want someone or something is present in our life again. This helps us to define what is good for us to decide what we want going forward, and avoid making the same mistakes of the past.

Every relationship has two sides, we can learn from everything. It is not because ended that we have not lived happy moments that refer us to positive feelings. However, Life is made of equilibrium and even with good memories is necessary to define well that all this is in the past and that there was also negative situations, which today no longer worth rescuing.

With our constant evolution we become increasingly aware that perhaps this person with whom we live in a cycle of our life today would be inappropriate for us, could bring us many problems, even greater than we have ever had to face.

It is common to feel a nuisance for even we remember of someone who has hurt us, but we must understand that all learning is valid and makes us grow, even if the relationship has created some trauma or bad feelings in our lives.

The human being is in constant building, and all the people with whom we associate contribute in some way to our growth, our evolution, is not only the "good" people, those who remain on our side and the people in our midst today. No, no. All people interfere, so those who now keep only in memories and in no doubt of shadow memories helped us to become what we are. That's why they also owe our gratitude.