The worse the character is, the more likely it is to put these three sentences on the lips. It’s best not to have a deep friendship

Carnegie has a saying- Only 15% of a person's success depends on professional skills, and the remaining 85% depends on the ability of interpersonal and communication. I think so, a person's mouth is her feng shui. You are gentle, and you are naturally liked by people around you. Your language is vulgar, and of course the people around you try to stay away. The saying goes well: Words are the voice of the heart, and words are the state of mind. Language is like a mirror, reflecting a person's heart. The poorer the character, the more they like to chant these words. If you encounter it accidentally, you must stay away.

People often say: "Look at a person, look at the lowest point of his character." What is the lowest point of character? It's simple: What kind of reaction will he make when he is in a trough? What kind of actions would he do when he was impoverished? What kind of words will he say when he is angry? In some extreme situations, people tend to reveal their nature undisguisedly. I think of a story that Kou Naixin once shared on "Super Speaker". She said that she had a quarrel with her husband once, and the quarrel was so fierce that she almost lost her mind. At that time, she only wanted to win, and what she said was a bit more mean than usual. She shouted at her husband: "You divorced second-hand goods, you are not worthy of me." Unexpectedly, when he said a word, the husband was stunned for an instant. He didn't return a word, but went back to the bedroom silently, and started packing up his things to go out. Before leaving the house, her husband turned his head aggrievedly and said to Kou Naixin: "There are some things you can't say, do you know?"

Kou Naixin was stunned when she saw her husband's injured expression and loss. She never expected that with just one sentence, it would hurt people so deeply, and it was the person she was closest to. In fact, this is how people interact with each other, and it is very important to control the proportions. Because some injuries can be made up, and some injuries, even if the wound healed over time, the scars are still shocking. A colleague once told me a story that she broke up with a friend who had been in contact for several years. The reason is simple, because this friend always likes to poke the pain. When emotionally, she would forget all the good things about the other party, and stab the other party all over her body. He even went online, picking up the most ugly words and smashing them at the opponent. Try to think about it, the person who was close to you knows all your embarrassments and pains, but at this time, she will always show the cruelest side, poke your sore spots, and poke your scars.
This experience has been the first time, and no one wants to experience the second time. Hemingway once said: "We spent two years learning to talk, but it took more than sixty years to learn to shut up." This is true, and I will not say a few words at a critical time, which not only preserves face, but also maintains feelings. Because good feelings are understanding and respect for each other. After understanding all the weaknesses and pain points of the other party, he tried his best to hold back the most hurtful sentence.

The writer San Mao once said: "Occasionally complaining about life may be a catharsis of some kind of emotion, and it is all right. But habitual complaining without seeking change is an unwise person." Thinking of Aunt Li next door, she always talked about the phrase "My life is so bitter". When the husband’s industry is in a downturn, and when he encounters major layoffs, Aunt Li will say: "Why is my life so bitter, marrying such a desperate man". The child was not motivated in learning, and the teacher asked his parents to talk. Aunt Li took the teacher to complain: "What do you think I did to give birth to such a hopeless child." When she encounters problems at work, she either pulls her colleagues to complain about how difficult the customer is, or she complains to us about how the company embarrassed her. I heard her complaining several times, and it was the same every time. After listening for a long time, I am also annoyed. Because I found that no matter what happened to her, she would be frustrated and full of resentment for the first time. But in life, there is no such thing as smooth flow. Instead of complaining about fate, it is better to change destiny, rather than complain about life, it is better to improve life.

If there is such a person by your side-- When others were working hard, she complained about herself in the same place. When others were looking for a solution, she dragged everyone to complain and complain. I advise you to stay away as soon as possible. Because emotions are contagious, and with people who are full of grievances and grievances, you will unconsciously accept a lot of negative information. Over time, you will inevitably be adversely affected. Life itself is already very hard, you have no obligation to be someone else's trash can. Staying away from those who love to complain and living one's life without their influence is the greatest responsibility for life.

People often say: "Details see character, small things see people's hearts." A person's style of doing things reveals his character. In the same way, what a person says in his free time can also give a glimpse of his morality. Once a reader named Xixi confided to me, she said that she was particularly disgusted with relatives in the family. As long as she is present on occasions, she will inevitably comment on her current situation, and her words will be extremely ugly. Not only did she say on occasions when Cici was there, as long as she caught up with the news of Cici on weekdays, she would also add fuel and jealousy to exaggerate it. Cici told me that once she went on a blind date and couldn't talk to her husband. Not long after she went home, she heard her second aunt spreading gossip everywhere, saying that she had high-sightedness, that she was full of arrogance, and that she looked down on her family. Cici is very busy with work in the city, and rented a house near the company. This second aunt started again. She did not do business outside, and supported herself by holding a man's thigh.
In short, as long as Cici's matter reaches this second aunt's ears, he will be put on the air and talk about it to the people around him. Not only that, Cici, as long as her family lives better than her, she will always think of ways to ruin her reputation. In this way, there was a basket of gossips, and others were getting better and better, but this second aunt, not only did the day fail, but also became more and more annoying. The family also gave her a nickname, called the Long Tongue Woman. At home gatherings on weekdays, if you can avoid her, you can avoid her. As long as she is there, the family will tacitly say nothing.

I think it is too, the interaction between people, the picture is a comfortable. When you are always thinking about corrupting the reputation of others and speaking ill of others behind your back, your favorability in the hearts of others will also plummet. Unfortunately, in reality, too many people do not understand this truth. The work was not going well, so he complained about the leadership behind the scenes. There are conflicts in the married life, so I abused my partner outside. Over time, not to mention the time spent in trivial matters, the whole person is full of negative energy. When you meet such a person in your life, you can stay away as soon as possible. Because she tells you other people's gossip today, and maybe tomorrow, she will tell others about your affairs. We often say: "Sitting in meditation often thinks about yourself, and talks about others." This is not only a person's cultivation, but also the foundation of a person's behavior.
I have read a sentence: Talking people can always express their thoughts ingeniously, making people happy, welcome in the social circle, and life is always accompanied by good luck. As for those who can't speak, all things can't do without accusations, complaints and abuse, which are offensive, and they have become the kind of unpleasant people in the life circle. Therefore, what you say determines what kind of person you are and what kind of people you are with you. As the saying goes, the mouth is the door of misfortune, the tongue is the sword. A person's conduct is often hidden between her lips and teeth. The life in your mouth is your life, and what you say determines your destiny. Click [Looking], life is long, I hope we can keep our tongues, manage our emotions, live a high-quality life, and make quality friends.