When You Are Shut Down, Use it As a Fuel to Move Forward
Hello again, dear Steemians!
The fear of rejection is a strong emotional stance which utilizes our procrastination as a weapon to delay work and stun productivity. How do we deal with the fear of rejection, and worse, rejection itself?
Often enough, people do not know how powerful this fear can be and how devastatingly strong can its weakening grasp reduce our productivity and give us reasons to procrastinate and waste time.
What we need to do in a situation like this is use that fear and sentiment as a fuel to move forward.
Why do people fear rejection so much? Imagine a person who is stuck working in an office doing a job he utterly hates, because he is too afraid of resigning and going after his dreams.
That person is not afraid of the dreams themselves, because the dreams always take him to a place of longing and desire.
No, what that person fears is rejection. He is afraid of going out to someone or a group of people and show them what he has to offer, and he is afraid of getting shut down or rejected because of his inadequacy.
But that fear is, at best, misplaced and wrong.
What you need to understand is, first of all, not a lot of people will understand your vision. You are unique in this world, and so are your thoughts.
You should not expect your ideas to be immediately accepted because there may be few people who can recognize the potential of your innovation.
It is always the same story with many successful people. They do not fear rejection. They actually embrace it. What you need to do is work on your mindset and see rejection as an invitation to a fight.
Every time successful people get shut down, they become more and more determined to realize their vision and achieve their goal. Because they do not see rejection as failure, but another challenge that they have to overcome.
You see, for these people, something easy and simple is always disappointing.
If you were to start doing something tomorrow and achieve it by the end of the week, what would be the point?
Where would be the journey, and alongside it, the adventure?
For these people, rejection is but a fuel for their unending resolve and admirable courage under pressure.
Some people might even decide to resign and start their own independent business. It is going to be a dark and tricky road.
You will have to compromise and adapt, and learn how to look after yourself with no insurance about your future. But if you procrastinate this difficult starting point, you will achieve nothing and merely waste time.
One of my close friends who is a successful entrepreneur once told me:
‘Try to keep your distance from all the negativity in the outside world. But if you are the type of twisted character like me, use that negativity as a fuel for your work.’
The same could be said about fear of rejection. Do not be afraid of it. Embrace it, and use it as a fuel to push you forward.
If they say you can’t do it, the only thing you can do is show more determination and resolve and prove them wrong!
A BIG HUG!
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Important Note!
I have been working very hard on this blog since the beginning. I have a very busy life but I am giving my best and believe me I have shared experiences that I have been coaching thousands of people and I know that the change of the Mindset should be daily. I am already grateful to see you giving upvotes to each other and you can see this with the fact that many already have 8, 9, 10 upvotes. But I'm sure that with the effort of all of us we will see a community with, 40, 50 upvotes and for that everyone should get engaged so we can make it come true. I believe and we can! Resteem...
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I am here making a list of all of you who have helped build this community by voting for each other who write meaningful comments and soon I will respond to everyone with comment and thank you all because I can already see this spirit being built in this Positive Mindset community and help between all of you.
You will receive my upvote in all material and brief comments I will do this in all the posts I am following very closely and I can see what the people who are generous and contribute to this legacy that I am trying to build with all of you can become reality in a short time.
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First of all, I would like to thank all of you, who are the most active and proactive in this community, showing your generosity and always with meaningful comments. From now on I will always make a list of these incredible people who have helped to expand our goal of growing ever more.
But I ask that if you are new around here you read many of the previous posts because they make it clear that we are building a community with respect among all, generosity and this blog is for those who really want to start moving their Mindset to positive and moreover be part of the growth of all of us who contribute to this blog. Please do not ask to include you in the list if you are just wanting upvotes because we want here people genuinely attuned to growth and good attitudes and as I have always said with Respect as the basis of all, generosity and positivity!
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How many people do we know who work or do the things others want, just because they are not rejected? Our environment is full of examples of unhappy people cornered by fear! We live in a society that encourages fear: don't go up because you're going to fall, don't go because you can get lost, don't go out because they can kill you, don't love because you're going to be unhappy. Especially our parents and friends use fear as a tool of control without realizing the damage they are doing to us. All fear is eliminated when we face it, even when we decide to face it, we have already won. To jump, you have to take a backward impulse. Withdrawal can sometimes be necessary, especially when we do it to start flying. Nice text to close this beginning of the week, @chbartist
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This is really @chbartist a change of paradigm, because many times when feeling the rejection we feel that we should not be in that space, especially because the environment becomes tense.
What is important is to be clear about the objective, that means that if you really want to do something in life and someone tells you that you are not good or that you do something else, you will be so clear that those words will not resonate as strongly as what you are looking for. your heart.
CORRECTO. Estoy de acuerdo con este artículo. Sí sentimos miedo al rechazo, y el rechazo nos cohíbe de hacer las cosas que realmente queremos hacer.
Tal vez se pueda llamarse enfrentamiento al rechazo.
si enfrentamos al rechazo y nos proponemos que si podemos lo hacemos.
Mi hijo mayor manifiesta mucho miedo al rechazo y ha dejado de hacer cosas por ese miedo, un ejemplo es: BUSCAR UN TRABAJO, O PEDIR UN FAVOR, O ATREVERSE A TENER LA INICIATIVA PARA HACER ALGO Y FINALMENTE SE QUEDA MOTIVADO PORQUE NO HIZO NI LOGRO NADA.
En cambio mi hijo menor enfrenta esos miedos al rechazo atreviéndose a hacer las cosas.
Se ha atrevido a buscar trabajo sin tener la experiencia suficiente y lo ha logrado.
Se ha atrevido a reparar un equipo médico (él es ingeniero Biomédico) que nunca había visto. Solo se arriesgó y lo logró´confió en si mismo. fue contra su miedo a no poder hacerlo y realmente lo logro.
Entonces creo que es muy importante enfrentar el miedo llevandole la contraria y lograr lo que queremos.
Buen artículo.
Muy bueno y necesario para mejorar nuestra condición como seres humanos en nuestras vidas.
Abrazos.
Too many people are just too scared. (of authority mostly, of some type)
All the successful people (in business),I have met, possess some form or other of that 'twisted character' personality of your friend.
Negative is an energy to be transformed into positive, if you are prepared to do the work.
Thinking back - I don't know (personally) of any 'successful' business people who are just all positivity and light...
Like you said, don't be scared....
Good post!
I can totally relate to your message! Every time when I am told I would run into this problem and that problem if I persisted with my plan/dream, I would say this in my heart: Just give me a moment to show you how this can be achieved!
Fear incapacitates people. Its hard to think and act objectively and wisely when you are in fear.
Here are my additions on how to deal with fear;
First fear is a fact you should know that, everybody fears something. But they still go after their dreams anyways, so why not you?
Second, most limitations and fears we have in our heads are not placed there by people but by our own imaginations. Why kids fear darkness, because of their imagination not because there's something in the darkness.
Third, do not compare your ability with other people, you will never be anybody else but you. To do not seek to impress anybody but express your talent, do not compete anybody but compliment others and compete with your own self.
Fourth, face your fears. Let fear fear your talent, ability, passion and determination. I remember back in 1991, my brother son used to fear so much, aircrafts when they pass in the sky and he happens to hear the sound of it, could run inside the house crying at the top of his lugs. But one day We took him to the near by airstrip, because we lived in the vicinity. When we reached their he saw a small plane, he asked uncle what is that we lied to him we told him it was a car. He relaxed. But time came for that plane to take off, all hell broke loose. He shouted, screamed and cried, but we held him tightly he could not run anywhere. Within few minutes his ordeal was over and thus his fear of planes henceforth.
So the best treatment for your fears is to face them head-on.
@chbartist sir
After the responsibilities of personal life and the busy routine of the day, leave the platform that comes to mind. Then comes the thought in mind that if it has spent so much time behind it then a little more right then. The same thinking motivates the mind and gathers in the form of energy. A positive idea arises in the mind. Being associated here is not only economic benefit, but also gives the opportunity to understand the views of various language cultures and different types of people. These things work for me in a way, energy or fuel. In our midst, fear is frightened towards responsibilities that rob us of purpose. In the beginning, I was nervous about commenting on people's posts, what would people think if this was not a meaningful comment. Then I saw a lot of people who are always encouraging to see that you try your best, because no one is perfect. From this point of view, my feelings of suspicion went away. Actually the reward or appreciation works to fill the energy. We need to accept the things that create negative emotions within us because our weakest side is our strongest side. These things work to give energy to life.
Thank you for binding people in a community.
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I disagree with the premise. Very few people fear rejection. Everyone in some way has been rejected thousands of times by society. Everyone has had their resumes tossed in shredders. And their hearts thrown in the trash.
No, what they fear is shame. Not meeting the standard that you or society has placed on yourself.
For example, no one would mind getting rejected by a celebrity/social media star, but they would mind if they were rejected by a friend.
You have written exactly what we should not be afraid of rejection, but it should face this fidelity and as often as our rejion will face our fear and ending we will be successful.
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Great message. Turn a negative into a positive and let it fuel your motivation and productivity. As always, great message that you're putting out there into the universe.
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