Building Happiness
Sometimes it might seem like building success can only happen on top of someone's failure. Life seems to teach us that everything is a competition and some of us take that idea to the extreme. It's completely possible to build your own happiness while also being a positive force for those around you.
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There is the phrase I've been saying for a very long
“There is no value on being a millionaire drinking coconut water somewhere in Bahamas, if there is no one to share the moment with - @chbartist"
In my mind surrounding myself with people who belong to what I call the tribe of good intent is not just important, it's crucial for me to feel accomplished. If my friends are there with me, enjoying their own success, drinking they own pina colada or whatever they choose to drink with their own efforts, that becomes an inspirational blessing for my life.
What is the lie I think we should erase from our minds? The idea that the only way to move forward, to grow is to step over everyone's head. No man is an island on his own, happiness can't be built on someone's misery and these truths are simply unavoidable.
You might be thinking to yourself that there is not enough room for everyone, that there is no way everyone can be successful. There is some truth to that statement, not everyone that tries will achieve, but the idea that success is a ridiculously scarce resource that you are either destined or not to achieve is very, very false.
We can make our own truth, just as much as we decide what success means to us. We have the power to build on our happiness, as long as we are willing to learn the tools we require to do so.
I even go as far as saying that helping others grow can be part of your plan to be happier, to build your happiness. There are lots of arguments for the positive effects of altruism in our brains and I find them to be very compatible with my worldview and experience. Finding the right people to build your happiness with, finding the right people to share, is probably just as important as any good intentions you might put forward.
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There is the phrase I've been saying for a very long
In my mind surrounding myself with people who belong to what I call the tribe of good intent is not just important, it's crucial for me to feel accomplished. If my friends are there with me, enjoying their own success, drinking they own pina colada or whatever they choose to drink with their own efforts, that becomes an inspirational blessing for my life.
What is the lie I think we should erase from our minds? The idea that the only way to move forward, to grow is to step over everyone's head. No man is an island on his own, happiness can't be built on someone's misery and these truths are simply unavoidable.
You might be thinking to yourself that there is not enough room for everyone, that there is no way everyone can be successful. There is some truth to that statement, not everyone that tries will achieve, but the idea that success is a ridiculously scarce resource that you are either destined or not to achieve is very, very false.
We can make our own truth, just as much as we decide what success means to us. We have the power to build on our happiness, as long as we are willing to learn the tools we require to do so.
I even go as far as saying that helping others grow can be part of your plan to be happier, to build your happiness. There are lots of arguments for the positive effects of altruism in our brains and I find them to be very compatible with my worldview and experience. Finding the right people to build your happiness with, finding the right people to share, is probably just as important as any good intentions you might put forward.
That is part of my drive everyday and that is what keeps me motivated to share my story.
Until next time wishing you all the best
@chbartist
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to me, i really don't mind being alone, i'm already used to it, and i can be happy without any people around me, maybe people who feel alone are the once who needed people around them, if they can't handle their own happiness when they were alone, so to me being in control over yourself can lead you to happiness and mindfulness. :)
hello @cortexx I also don't think I have issues being alone, I have a select group of people who are close friends and they are in my mind worth more than millions of people around me, and that also can give me joy. But I completely understand your point...
much respect, cheers
@chbartist
@chbartist and @cortexx: I like both perspectives - the one and the other does exist. The one of us who can live both ways is somehow complete and ready for being happy (whatever happiness might be!) and enjoying the life. But as mentioned, we are a so called “group-living animal” and always feel better once we are with other people and are accepted by other people. Thanks for your comments.
Happiness will only be achieve when you are contented with your life. Contentment comes first before happiness.
Thank you @elizahfhaye
Beautiful .. amazing words
Be good with others and you will be happier
Great post from you, well done
Thanks for sharing
Thank you @slimanepro.
helping others does build happiness, also helping others is one of the key components on this platform, also Maldives is literally heaven on earth
I think you are a sick person. Happiness and success talk is for brainwashed people.
@havok777 he literally says in the first paragraph "There is no value on being a millionaire drinking coconut water somewhere in Bahamas, if there is no one to share the moment with." Happiness and success is something all humans strive for, even yourself. Maybe you define it differently, but you are pursuing it.
Whatever perceptual bias you have that made you not read past the first paragraph, you should work on it because it is going to make you miss out on Truth. Truth can be found in all places, from all people, but if you start tuning out what you don't like and only focusing on what you like, you are the one who misses out on Truth.
@havok777 I need to comment this before I run out the door to start my day. You said it so beautifully and as we said in our NLP coaching: "Each of us has its own map of life" We are all here to learn from each other and have the right to live as we chose to. I just notice nowadays how people on social media say every little word, especially hostile one without no manners. I'm not saying don't express your thoughts, however, think before you speak as well. Just because you are not facing that person face to face, it does not mean you can blure it out like a cave man or even worse.
Perfectly said @sasharay. All the best!
Thank you @chbartist. To you as well!
Perfectly said @anotherhero you managed to explain it possible better than I could to our friend here.
All the best
Amazing @havok777 I'm super impressed with your comment, I will spend all week thinking about it... Its like I just found someone who says that he hates music and that person saying anyone who likes music is a sick person. I'm even impressed on your ability to communicate to, it could become a poetry book one day too... I would call it "the most brilliant mind in the world"
But hey, I respect your choices, no one is perfect and there is room for everyone's opinion..
Cheers
@chbartist
good; very good impulse!
It's completely possible to build your own happiness while also being a positive force for those around you. - Personally, I think being a positive force to others is crucial for our own happiness!
And you're right, it's more than possible for all of us to be successful, especially because SUCCESS means a different thing to each of us.
Thank you for this great post. We need more people like you to remind us that life has no meaning if you chose to be alone!
hello @corina thank you for reading, I think your comment is so nice I feel like I should use up some poetry as a reply! Its like finding a beautiful field with savory berries.
Much love, success and respect!
@chbartist
Great perspective. I like your reference to the fact that "No man is an island." I agree we need others to get ahead, but without stepping on their heads. I like your coconut quote as well. I've enjoyed making my friends successful on my path to success. There's enough success to go around for everyone. Cheers.
Important point to understand. Wealth and happiness can be created and destroyed.
Yes, a truth we should never forget...
Regards
badabim, badabum... wheres Grumpy when its needed?
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