RE: Monogamy – A Failed Approach To A Happy Long-Term Relationship?
i've wonder about this topic and for now my reply would be...
if you seek happiness and love outside of you, you are condamned to seek forever. a monogamous realtionship can be like monkhood. and society likes it becouse of the rules. so we were raised this way. now the situation is very different from when this rules were practical. our monkey mind is not satisfied anymore with food, a roof, a partner and children = safe haven. our earthly experience is meant to be full. everchanging. and the society of today (capitalism) is bombarding us with options. you could say that new experiences make you wiser, but there is a distinction of chasing the new and creating/choosing the real you. are you chasing the thrill of another shot, ready to sacrifice the you of the past just becouse you can't feel life anymore, or are you getting wiser and are you ready to shed the old skin?
you live a different live if you have a car compared to when you don't. a relationship is a whole new dimension. you can't be the same when you are in. if that's the case you are not getting the new experience.
monk or wanderer. the path is different the end the same.
i hope to see the rise of a new culture in the near future. the world of unlimited choices is waiting for the brave wanderers to tell their stories.
thank you for your toughts
@borenwilde, totally agree with the things you are saying! I think we are on this planet to make experiences in whatever shape, color or form.
And of course you can't directly compare the two... but the way I see it, I want to become more by being with a person, not less. Why can't the individual and the relationship coexist?
It's a very philosophical question that I am raising here. And it probably starts with the question what is a relationship in the first place, what's its purpose.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I'll let them sink in a bit.
what is a relationship?
in my mind it's everything. the whole world. you are in relationship with everything becouse if not, there would be no you and the other (person or object). you would be not born, dead or enlightened (this i presume).
i think you can become more with a person, but not in a way the you of now predicts it should be, the unexpected things shape you. those are the gifts to be enjoyed. these shake you from your current state to another level.
the individual is in a relationship and this changes the individual. the individual per se does not exist. you choose the relationships (experiences) you want and those make you more. and more of you is a different you, maybe less of you like you were before. it gets really complicated.
you are thirsty and you need water to grow and when the well outside the castle is dry you go in search for another well. this will keep you alive, your mind won't wither. but no well outside the castle will quench your thirst. they will only help you grow.
i'm really enjoing thinking about these things man. thanks for the opportunity