I deliberately stopped doing commercial posts for a little while in order to do some smaller, more personal stuff just for fun. I'm glad I did because I was starting to feel boxed into my format.
Confidence in your own ability and knowledge is a stuggle I think we all face. In my life have felt this personally in many situations. Somethings the hardest battles are within your own mind.
You were that perfectionist teacher's pet we all rolled our eyes at in high school, weren't you?
But you have a hard time taking action or finishing things because you're good at everything, but everything you do must be absolutely perfect.
So it appears you understand what the problem is. If you have too many options, its hard to take action because of indecisiveness, and taking action is even harder when you're expecting yourself do perform perfectly. This mindset leads to total paralysis.
My unsolicited advice is to maintain your honesty and integrity, but stop rejecting yourself. If you get a job offer and you feel you're only 20% qualified, express that. Tell the person offering the opportunity that you feel you are qualified to do x, but don't feel knowledgeable about y. But here's the key: if they leave the offer on the table anyway, TAKE THE DAMN JOB. It is your job to be honest, not to disqualify yourself. It is their job to disqualify you. If they still want you for the job, it simply means that they think you will still do well enough, will learn what you need to on the job, and/or they like you as a person, which many employers will tell you is often more important anyway. Also, qualifications are often written by HR personnel that don't know jack shit about the job so be skeptical about them.
Think of it this way. If you're on a date and a guy says that he's looking for a girl that loves riding horses, but you don't and you say so, it doesn't make sense for you to end the relationship if he wants to continue. It just means that he doesn't actually care about that qualification so much because you're worth it anyway. If people think you are valuable stop arguing with them silly girl.
I am happy to see you return. Had a lot of people come in with a great introduction post and then disappear. I wouldn't worry too much about making an amazing post everytime. Myself, I like to see people being active even if every post isn't a winner. Good to see you again!
someone once explained me that apparently men accept a job offer even when they only think they have 20 % of the required skills, whereas women think they need them all, which I think is more fair, because why make someone think you can do the job when later both sides have wasted their time and have made themselves ridiculous
I don't think this is gender specific... more like character specific. If you are a responsible person you will always understand your deficiencies and how you can fail in a task or job. If you are an arrogant person you say "sure, let's go" and then reality hits you with a brick.
Responsible people will relate to you and also understand what you are describing. And the fact is that even education and degrees today don't mean shit in cutting-edge fields. There is an inflation of degrees and even in schools where you'd thought that the school name would back the degree, it doesn't happen.
You can be a computing phd and still be inadequate to work on the complex skill set that combines coding in c++, maths, cryptography and game theory that may be required for a blockchain project. Or you can be an eastern-block coder who grew up with a keyboard and you could do wonders with your skills (even if you lack some theoretical aspects that would help significantly - but you can catch up with them if you dedicate time).
I deliberately stopped doing commercial posts for a little while in order to do some smaller, more personal stuff just for fun. I'm glad I did because I was starting to feel boxed into my format.
Confidence in your own ability and knowledge is a stuggle I think we all face. In my life have felt this personally in many situations. Somethings the hardest battles are within your own mind.
You were that perfectionist teacher's pet we all rolled our eyes at in high school, weren't you?
But you have a hard time taking action or finishing things because you're good at everything, but everything you do must be absolutely perfect.
So it appears you understand what the problem is. If you have too many options, its hard to take action because of indecisiveness, and taking action is even harder when you're expecting yourself do perform perfectly. This mindset leads to total paralysis.
My unsolicited advice is to maintain your honesty and integrity, but stop rejecting yourself. If you get a job offer and you feel you're only 20% qualified, express that. Tell the person offering the opportunity that you feel you are qualified to do x, but don't feel knowledgeable about y. But here's the key: if they leave the offer on the table anyway, TAKE THE DAMN JOB. It is your job to be honest, not to disqualify yourself. It is their job to disqualify you. If they still want you for the job, it simply means that they think you will still do well enough, will learn what you need to on the job, and/or they like you as a person, which many employers will tell you is often more important anyway. Also, qualifications are often written by HR personnel that don't know jack shit about the job so be skeptical about them.
Think of it this way. If you're on a date and a guy says that he's looking for a girl that loves riding horses, but you don't and you say so, it doesn't make sense for you to end the relationship if he wants to continue. It just means that he doesn't actually care about that qualification so much because you're worth it anyway. If people think you are valuable stop arguing with them silly girl.
Slightly off topic but that photo by Ralf Maier is incredible!
Who is he?
the photographer of the first photo - see https://www.facebook.com/maier24?fref=ts
thank you!
Gives off some wonder woman vibes, doesn't it? (the new one)
Welcome back @blockchaingirl
I am happy to see you return. Had a lot of people come in with a great introduction post and then disappear. I wouldn't worry too much about making an amazing post everytime. Myself, I like to see people being active even if every post isn't a winner. Good to see you again!
As a man, the job skill thing is true. I just make shit up as I go, so I'm told by my wife.
I don't think this is gender specific... more like character specific. If you are a responsible person you will always understand your deficiencies and how you can fail in a task or job. If you are an arrogant person you say "sure, let's go" and then reality hits you with a brick.
Responsible people will relate to you and also understand what you are describing. And the fact is that even education and degrees today don't mean shit in cutting-edge fields. There is an inflation of degrees and even in schools where you'd thought that the school name would back the degree, it doesn't happen.
You can be a computing phd and still be inadequate to work on the complex skill set that combines coding in c++, maths, cryptography and game theory that may be required for a blockchain project. Or you can be an eastern-block coder who grew up with a keyboard and you could do wonders with your skills (even if you lack some theoretical aspects that would help significantly - but you can catch up with them if you dedicate time).
Just happy to see you back to being active again. You don't have to post every time. Share your thoughts on others too :)