Sex - Needs or means?
There are wrong ways of thinking that lead to incorrect beliefs about why a person can not find the love of his life.
Men tend to think that sex is to satisfy the need, the partner is anyone. Women think sex is an integral part of true love. Both of these ideas are false, so they make many people in trouble with love.
Every human being has psychological needs. If these needs are not satisfied then psychology is severely affected. Just as food, shelter and sleep are needed to survive, we must meet these needs in order to have a healthy, stable spirit.
Psychologists have come up with a variety of psychological needs, but you can simplify it into four categories: safety needs 1, need for respect 2, autonomy 3 , and need connection 4. A happy person should be guaranteed all 4 needs. Otherwise, we will have to pay the price in both physical and mental health. For example, if a person is not respected, they become depressed and want to commit suicide. In other cases, a person who is not free will will be more prone to dependency and will not be able to take care of himself.
Sex is the means by which human beings can satisfy their psychological needs, but not by themselves.
Because there is no evidence that celibacy will affect the physical or mental. You do not die without sex. The fact is that sex also has health risks. Some people even believe that non-sexual life offers many health benefits.
In fact, sex is great. Sex makes people happier and healthier. I just want to say that it's not a physiological or psychological need, it's just a means.
On the other hand, if the psychological needs mentioned above are not met, both physically and mentally you will be right away. You will get nervous, addictive, and delusional. Research shows that social isolation is more harmful than alcohol or smoking. Depression or stress is also associated with these psychological problems.
Many people think sex is as essential as eating or sleeping. However, the difference is that you can live a non-sex life in happiness.
Men and women want to solve their own needs and find people to help them do it. Women find men cold and careless because they do not meet the need to connect. Men think women are weak and dependent because they think women think sex is like them. In the above case, the two of them are mistaken for misunderstanding the way the other person is.
Human psychology is a whole category of emotions. Wherever they are, of any race, of any culture, of any age, each person has strong feelings associated with someone in his or her life. It was parents when you were young. Then gradually moved to her lover. An increase in the levels of the hormone oxytocin, serotonin and the decrease in testosterone or activity of the frontal cortex - these changes make you intoxicated with others, until you have children (2, or maybe 10 ) matured.
And because sexuality is purely for psychic services, nature has sexually linked the need for respect and coherence. They are very close together and inseparable. Even if you try to suppress, they will still scream inside you, in many different forms.
Sex is not like eating, because a) you do not die without it, and b) it's an inevitable emotion, once you have it. Intelligent creativity has bound us like that - putting our psychological needs first and using sex to satisfy them, traps we think we can not live without sex. And then you go eat the piece, time and time again. Women after separation from each other tend to be comfortable with the latter.