One thing that really helped me to kindof understand how a man hears was realizing that when women listen, they want all the details so as to make a deeper picture of the whole scenario in order to analyze it, whereas when men listen they are trying to figure out how to fix the problem immediately and just "hear" the big points as they are wired to start fixing asap. If they get the "gyst" they can tackle the problem, knowing the smaller points fall into place as the repair happens.