I so get the second mistake, sometimes you feel like your emotions are so heavy and so immense that it seems almost imposible for you that another person could not easily interpret it. We forget that all of that is bottled up inside us and there is no posible way for a third person to read our minds and understand every change of heart we have. It is such a difficult thing to step outside yourself and actually acknowledge that, but it is definitely an exercise that, with practice, could help solve an infinity of misunderstandings.