Mothers - Duty as a sacrifice to their children

MOTHERS SACRIFICE TO THEIR CHILDREN

What is a sacrifice?

Sacrifice simply means to give away something of value, denying yourself of pleasure to improve one’s position or life.
Sacrifice is the willingness to forego immediate self-interest to promote the well-being of a child or relationship.

Mothers sacrifice to a child – these are the extra miles a mother takes to make sure her children are well to do in the society. Many mothers will work hard to give their children a good life to live in terms of education and other things that will make the child have stable lives.

A good mother makes the physical and emotional needs of her child her first priority. This is a very important point to keep in mind, especially in these modern times. Women today are forced by society into making their own careers and jobs more important than their homes.

The home will always remain a woman’s most valuable priority which would require all types of sacrifices. It might not really be a sacrifice, but an investment which will reap great dividends.

As a mother, you are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a role model, a provider, a defender, a protector and a real Superwoman.

A sincere mother needs to make an impact in the lives of her children.

why did I say, mother? Yes, it has to be mothers because they are responsible for carrying the fetus in their womb till it becomes matured and these may range from nine to ten months, breastfeed for six-month, sleepless night for months to feed babies in the midnight, praying to God to help their sick babies who cannot explain their condition.

Most times I ask myself, mothers, where is this love, we seem to have forgotten about the stress and pain during birth.

I came across a man who said his wife used their son’s school fees to get clothing for an occasion what the Yoruba call “aso ebi” without his consent and the son was sent out of school. Many more of this is common among women these days.

In the olden days, mothers work hard to provide for their children mostly education and food but what do we see this day, they don’t care again, they see it as a necessity and the role of their husbands or the father of their children to provide the children’s need, all they do is sit at home or go to their business and live comfortably.

One day I traveled to Ondo state and saw this little child of about four to six years of age selling sachet water on the highway during school hours, it is really disappointing because I cannot say it is poverty, NO it is as a result of laziness on its mother’s part. as a mother, you can do this business yourself while the children are at school.

I remember when I was growing up with my siblings, even though we were not wealthy we were able to attend school through my mother’s support and sacrifice. She sells ice water and soft drinks every day, on one occasion she was introduced to a fashion design industry, she joined them as a tailor, I remember she worked overtime so as to be paid more.

What is happening to our mothers of today who are only known to give birth and not ready to be responsible for their upbringing. What can we say about a woman who divorces her husband because of financial crisis leaving the children behind, please who is going to take care of this children she is leaving behind, is it a step mum who would use them as houseboy or girl or a step mum who will always send them to hawk goods or their body as prostitute?

Please mothers let us rise up to our responsibility. I have some friends who always tell me that they cannot deny themselves the enjoyment of life for their children because they have father, yes they do but can the man do it all alone?

Not every child is knowledgeable enough to be educated but they can be trained in different vocations instead of abandoning them at home or engaging them in hawking on the street. Mothers are to engage their children and always give advice whenever necessary, this will bring the best out of the child.

“Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles.”
“A Mother holds her child’s hand for a while, and their heart forever!”

8 THINGS YOU LEARN FROM BEING RAISED BY A POWERFUL MOTHER

• You learn how to create your own happiness. You can find happiness in a difficult life. Even though you are carrying the weight of the world you can still be happy. Rania Naim said ‘My mom taught me that I can always find something to smile about all I have to do is look closer’.

• You learn the meaning of unconditional love. You saw your mom sacrifice her time, health and youth for you and your siblings, yet she never complained or gloated about how much she is suffering or how much she is doing. She always had a smile on her face and was happily giving more and more of herself. She taught you what selfless and unconditional love looks like.

• You learn that you can be both strong and soft. Strong mothers are usually very sensitive they just hide it better, but you saw your mom silently cry over your pain, or stay up all night taking care of you when you were sick, or the nights she couldn’t sleep because something was troubling you. The way she hugs you when you down show unmatched compassion and tenderness and sometimes in a quiet corner you saw her shed a few tears.

• You learn how to love yourself. You learn how to walk away from the things that are not meant for you, you learn how to keep going even when the whole world is against you, and you learn how to believe in yourself when everyone is doubting you. You learn that bad grades, heartbreaks, and failures don’t define you; what defines you is how you bounce back from all the setbacks and how hard you fight for the life you want.

• You learn never to look back. You learn not to look back and wonder why life turned upside down. You just keep looking forward and let the past redeem itself.

• You learn that it’s not easy being a woman. You learn that your opinion will be discounted, that you will be taken lightly when you’re being serious, but you will also learn that you can stand out in a crowd and force everyone to listen to your voice and accept your ideas. You learn that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

• You learn the importance of faith and patience. You learn that God is looking out for you and your struggles, that everything will be OK in the end. Storms will pass and tomorrow is a new day. You learn that patience is a strength.

• You learn the value of independence. You don’t need a man to save you or anyone to take care of you, you learn by example that you are capable of living a full and happy life without having to share it with someone else. You learn that you can build a home, raise kids, cook, and do the dishes all while having a thriving career.

In addition to this, I would like to ask an important question, What kind of mother is yours?

Thank you for taking out time to read this, am sure this would change the hearts of some mothers out there, I remain your loyal @aliceaina