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RE: Confession: I Can’t Stand Looking At Beautiful People
Whenever I see an attractive male or female I think to myself “why don’t I look like them? Why do I look so different?”, to the point where I feel like a lesser human being.
Imagine how women feel when they are judged so much by their appearance.
I understand completely, its terrible I know how it feels, whenever my friends say stuff like "shes a beast" I usually tell them to cut it out. Especially my one friend who is very good looking and doesnt realize how many doors he has had open because of it.
No kidding. I'd go so far as to say that we're primarily judged by our appearance. We can be successful, educated women but none of that matters if we're old or not attractive. And after the age of 50, we're invisible (which can be a relief to be honest!).
Not invisible to women who are attracted to women. Because I can only speak for myself, but I'm sure many women are the same. We don't care about how 'fertile' a woman looks. It's nice but not top thing. And there are men who find beauty in that way as well, and who find beauty in the traits deeper than skin deep. Not all men are obsessed with that kind of sexy that procreative health brings. I think a lot of women start dressing less sexy as they turn around fifty, as womens magazines have articles like "What a woman should never wear after 30, after 40..." etc.
Sexy:
but I know what you mean by comparatively invisible...and how it could be a relief. Any young woman gets approached often to the point it can get tiresome
That's actually what I was referring with regards to feeling relieved at times that I have become somewhat invisible. The constant harassment, catcalls, expectations that I "smile" for perfect strangers or else risk verbal attack, ...So glad most of that is over and that I can sit by myself at a coffee shop or browse for a book or walk the seawall without being bothered by someone who feels entitled to my time and attention.