I very much like your point with 'Questioning instead of complaining'.

From my experience we always complain, hence blame, when we find ourselves in a situation where we can finally leave others holding the baby!
"i didn't want that in the first place", so I am not the one to blame, pointing at others instead. Yet we ourselves were the ones who put ourselves into that situation to begin with, because we decided to let others decide instead of deciding ourselves with all responsibility.

Questioning is indeed key! :)

Great read!