How not to be afraid to lose loved ones?

Like not afraid to lose a man or a woman? Husband or wife? Look to yourself. How internal personal platform, your basic "I" regardless of the circumstances in the relationship with your partner? Flows your psychic energy, as in the case of communicating vessels? When one decreases, the other increases and Vice versa.

Sometimes one of the spouses (lovers) plunges into its dark depths, in a depression or bad luck. Then the second set it shoulder and feels more confident. As soon as the "sufferer" is selected from their misfortunes, and the second gradually losing their confidence. In other words: just start less need the support and approval of the partner increases his fear of losing you.

If so – that's alarming! Your marriage, love is in danger. In the space of personal feelings is not enough space to let both of you be strong. Therefore, the relationship becomes like a "transfusion" of energy from one connected vessel to another. Sometimes, in order not to lose a loved one, (s) he subconsciously wants you happen to trouble, and he could become strong. Maybe you've noticed something similar in yourself?

When you need to you need, we contribute to the weakness of your partner. If it is necessary that you need it, then it helps your weakness. This unconscious suppression. However, it could be worse. The conscious suppression also occurs among couples who seek "unity".

So, do not use the partner as a motor and don't let him use you. So will not get far. "Take a strong liking" to the person next to you can show their best qualities. That means without it you don't implement, and you will live in fear of losing a source of energy. Therefore, cling to him, or her stranglehold.
Remember what happens to a drowning man who clings to his Savior. They both can go to the bottom! Most often what happens.

Why each of you can not develop their ability to swim and tread water instead of having to hope and rely on another? Why don't both become good swimmers? Then fear will lose its meaning.
If we cling to a partner, like a drowning man, that is willing to push you in order to survive. This instinct of self-preservation. But against instinct to not trample! The tighter you hold someone, the greater grows the strength of the repulsion. This subconscious process is not easy to track when he is born. But when he revs, it will not stop.

To understand how not to be afraid to lose a man, a woman, I do not suggest you to separate yourself from all and nurture your ego. I'm trying to explain to you: "be yourself" and "be with someone" – not a contradiction, but the reality is that you want to balance. Any imbalance causes problems that destroy the strongest feelings and the most reliable. Union. If strength and reliability are subjected to constant tests, they can not withstand. We live in a polar world where there is no absolute strength and absolute reliability.

When the partner (partner) are trying to manipulate you or convert you, you'll need all the toughness to be yourself and at the same time to maintain good relations. Thus your love will save the Union from destruction. Yielding to outside influence, on the contrary, cut the rope and fly into the abyss.

How not to lose a man or a woman?
Here's what you should pay attention in life together:

• Spouses often become fixated on the shortcomings of each other, instead of developing the dignity of your person with whom you have a relationship.
• Personal ability to think, feel and act independently is largely formed by your parents. You tend to copy their parents, even if they do not consider them a worthy example to follow.
  The hope that the spouse (wife) will pull you out of the matrix of the parental nest, is usually not justified. It was his (her) willingness to do this will cause problems.
• The opinion that you are more advanced than your partner, most likely, the imagination, which themselves are mocked, and the real threat of losing the person forever. When you acknowledge that you are at the same level, you will be able to see what emotions, accusations and demands are exchanged.
• Defend their own interests in marriage and in intimacy, and not constantly sacrifice them for the sake of others, and it will make you happier.
• Criteria your evaluation must not be what others think about you or feel for you! The main criterion is your own opinion about yourself, your feelings and sensations. Stop looking at yourself in a Funhouse mirror called "OTHER". Whoever these "OTHERS" are parents, spouse, lover, friend or mate.

Surest way how not to be afraid to lose a man or a woman – become more individual, this is the best thing you can do for yourself and those you love. The paradox is: the better than you apart from others – the higher the prospect for a genuine unity. Not only in domestic, sexual, love, but on a spiritual level!