Dear Steemian, What is Your Opinion on Meeting Strangers from Steemit?
Dear Steemian,
The subject I want to write to you today is about making friends on Steemit and whether it is a good idea to meet them in 'real' life.
I am known to wear my heart on my sleeve (just a little bit) and if I care about a friend on Steemit, I have no qualms about telling them.
I am sure and can see that that lots of good friendships have been forged and formed. I have made a few myself that are very dear to me. The romantic in me can't wait to see a few love stories too.
But, I think that if the person that they portray on Steemit is the same person that they are in 'real' life, then it is possible to become good freinds with that person. If either person is not the person they portray themselves as online, then it is all just fake.
After all, that's the premise of online dating sites (I presume as I have never signed up to one), but my father met his current partner on a dating site and they have been together for 18 years now, and they only moved in together last year. Not just friendships, but true love is possible.
But that didn't stop them giving me a lecture on inviting a trusted Steemian friend into my home that I'd never met in real life, but I had talked to them a great deal on Steemit.
There was no doubt in mind that I trusted him, but they did have a point about looking out for my two kids - not that I'd admit that to them.
However, I 'know' there would have been no risk at all. It was just a gesture to help out a friend having a bad time.
But he never made it anyway, I did get to meet him but not quite in the circumstances we might have liked. But that's a story for another day and one for him to share first.
So there is always a small risk of meeting someone that you know from online somewhere, but how many people are actually 'bad' people that intend you harm?
The same applies to people in 'real' life too. How well can you really know anyone?
Perhaps I am too naive still, but I like to believe people are inherently good and there are only a small handful of people with dubious intentions.
In the future, for the most part I will ensure that if I get the opportunity to meet other Steemians, I will go to group events, or places away from home, unless both my heart and head tell me otherwise. And there is still a handful of people that would apply to, if circumstances should dictate the possibility of a meeting.
I'd protect my kids with my life, but sometimes calculated risks need to be taken, its called living. And having no “what ifs” or regrets. I trust my intuition about people.
What do you think on this subject, my fellow Steemians?
Yours sincerely
That's a frickin good question.
Steemit is not an online dating service where people try to only show there best side hide all the flaws and ugly spots.
So I reckon there is more honesty in this platform since most people are into the same kinda topics and ideas.
But you are right, we are talking Crypto, Money and Investment too, so we should be careful who we trust and under which circumstances we may meet in the real life. We might be easily used and exploited and there are definitely some black sheep in the Steemit family too. So meeting at a public place together with other people around might be some better idea. And if you want to be in the safer side, maybe leaving a lost whom and where you gonna meet before you heading out. Just to leave some hinds in the worst case that something really bad my happen.
I had little similar thoughts about sharing to many of out information openly and freely on this platform, so I put them into my last German post yesterday. To not be exploited we need to think twice and use more commons sense than we think we actually do.
Well, obviously there are some things that you wouldn't share on the blockchain, but for example, there is a lot of gift sending to Steemit friends etc going on at the moment, so there has to be a certain element of trust there to give someone your name and address.
Important is to use comment sense when interacting on- as well as offline. Many users have already put out their real names in their introduction posts, maybe not always the full name though. So a certain level of trust seems to exist what I appreciate
Meant to say that sharing is done off the blockchain, in the discord channels.
|To be frank, I wouldn't say this platform is more honest, cause most people care about their rep score and upvotes and try not to offend anyone while trying to kiss the nearest whale's ass.
Yes, there is a certain amount of that going on. But there are people here who write what they want to write, without being dictated by what they think people want to read, or for instant riches, but because they have strong beliefs in something. These are the interesting people, the non-sheep. The ones that are here for the long haul, not just a quick buck.
Yes this is also true, so then it might be just another mirror of our society.
I couldn't agree more with you. But so is the case in life as well.. We can't change it. But we can choose if we want to meet and be with such people. Some people don't care if the others are genuine or not, as long as they like them...
Dear friend, I am also inclined to think that most people have good intentions. However, when meeting a stranger, sometimes I feel anxiety. Especially dangerous are these Dating for women in my opinion. I rarely hear(but do not hear) stories about women serial killers or the like. But every day I hear stories about women victims of the attack. Unfortunately still in today's world women do not have full security. I hope to change this situation. I want to take all measures to ensure that we, women, could easily feel on the street and not fear for their mental and physical health. Therefore, meeting with a virtual friend, I would still have asked someone to accompany me.
I'd probably tell someone what I was doing and have the 'emergency phonecall' option.
Steemit is an amazing possibility to meet interesting talented people and even meet new friends!
I've met already a lot of people that i love to talk about different things and i have even intention to meet them one day in person!
I remember this day when my bf told me about Steemit. I thought: I don't need one more Facebook.
But in real i found out that Steemit is more interesting than Fb and what is a very big plus - no one bother me here. This is evidence of what kind of people have come here: smart, kind, sincere and openminded.
Yes, there is definitely a different caliber of people on Steemit to Facebook. There is a lot more ambition, a strength of character, personalities show through more and no backstabbing and the tit for tat, like on Facebook (well not to the same extent anyway).
Steemit represents the chance to meet like minded people and forge new working and personal relationships. In other words, steemit is an avenue for networking.
But, as it exists in real life so does it on steemit, so the issue of meeting good or bad people on this platform is a variable that depends on a number of factors the most notable being the "circumstance surrounding the meeting" among others.
Ever since I joined steemit I have happened to meet a lot of good people and have made one dear friend who helped me setup my steemit account properly only after a few hours of meeting me and still keeps helping me out in a number of ways. In my opinion, I think a person being good or bad to you depends on how you have been relating to that person in the past.
It takes time to get to know anyone.
My opinion is Why not.
having met the people at steemfest 2 i can say this and only this. i was surprised, wowed, blow away, impressed and mostly full of compassion and gratitude at the human beings i met at this little collection of 300 steemians. of the people i spoke too, every single one of them was lovely. and that's no bullshit. straight talking.
That is fantastic to hear and I believe it 100%. My fellow Steemians are truly wonderful people, never doubted it.
Whens the next steemfests? :)
november normally - 1st one in amsterdam in nov 2016 and just recently in portugal for steemfest 2 from the 1-5th of november 2017. prepare for next year. a must go event.
I would like to meet the people from Steemit in the 'real' life ;) But for now, the possibilities are limited to me. At least I'm trying to meet some other Steemians from my city and country and hopefully one day I will be able to reach someone from the other parts of the world :)
Yes, I'm pretty limited too. I have two small children and it's just me, so the grand world tour of meeting Steemians might have to wait a little while, or we could just have really fun summer holidays to far flung places and meet people for coffees and selfies lol.
Face-to-face meetings builds relationships and ultimately builds trust on which we can rely on long term.
Definitely helps to meet someone face to face. It puts a new perspective on the relationship.
Personally I would just like to be able to privately message other users... I think this is why steemit can feel quite cold. I can't think of another social media platform where you can not message other users... from gaming (even my online chess games!) sites to facebook... if steemit wants to gain mass appeal then then a messaging system is (in my opinion) imperative.
@xyx666 there is steemit chat and discord groups where you chat in a group or via private message other users and use voice chat too, to get to know other Steemit users. Click on the ADSactly crypto coin in the post and you find one such amazing discord group.
Thanks, but where is this ADSactly crypto coin? So like on my blog then like where do I find it? haha
scroll up and it is at the end of this steemit blog post:
Be guided by your heart and spirit, there lies the truth.
I have to include head in there too, else my home would be a homeless hostel.