ADSactly Personal - Why You Should Leave Your Comfort Zone Today...
ADSactly Personal: Why You Should Leave Your Comfort Zone Today...
I wanted to write to you all today to think about something really important…
Are you living in your comfort zone?
As a general rule, when you are in your comfort zone, things stay the same and nothing changes. Granted, this isn't always a bad thing, but what about your dreams? Where do they fit in when you are doing the same thing every day, hoping for different results, waiting for "That Thing" to happen, or tomorrow to come?
Tomorrow is here and then gone really fast. It easily becomes next week, next month, next year, and before we know it time has ticked itself away. It usually ends up being a major upset or life event that kicks us into thinking: "why are here and what can we offer the world?" It is then that we realize that time is not infinite. It is right up until that point that we take it all for granted.
We have to think about what it is that we want to achieve in our lives. We are all unique and individual people who have things to offer the world - be it words, art, advice, or love, to name just a small handful of "Purposes".
The world won't see you shine unless you get out into it and show it. The world doesn't need to be the world, it could be your family, your street, your town, or Steemit. You are capable of great things, I know you are, look inside yourself, you will see it too.
You have too much to offer just to be doing the same old thing every day, unless of course, you are doing what you were born to do already, then you are one of the lucky ones.
Getting out of your comfort zone is like entering the twilight zone. It is unknown. You will have successes and you will have failures, you will doubt yourself, and you will discover things about yourself that you may or may not like.
A LITTLE BRAVERY TO AVOID REGRETS
Bravery is required to get out of your comfort zone. I wanted to take writing at a university, but when I told my father this, he told me that there was no money in that, and not to pursue it, so I listened to him. I did my degree in business studies and marketing, which academically I excelled at, but not so much in practice.
And look what it is these days that I do earn my living. I write. But, now I have come to realize that I don't need a piece of paper to tell me I can write, and the marketing has been useful over the years to some extent.
It was a big huge regret for a long time and I often wonder, if I had applied to that particular writing course, whether they would have accepted me? But I will never know and that really bugs me. In this case, I should have stepped out of my comfort zone.
LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES
I am one person who, unfortunately, did have to have a major upheaval in my life in order to get myself out of my comfort zone. I had blinkers on and didn't see the bigger picture.
I thought: "It is only me, I can live like this if my children are happy and my husband is happy, who am I to rock the boat and wreck four lives, instead of just my own?
But the children weren't happy, and they now are, so I must have done something right. They don't worry and stress quite as much, although my eldest is a natural worrier and will worry about everything, imagined or not, and we have endless "what if" discussions.
But, someone outside looking in showed me the big picture, and I found courage from somewhere to call it off and start again after 15 years. It took me a few months of counseling and putting things back together, but I didn't waste my time on trivial things, or try to be friends with the "in-crowd" of mums. Rather, I decided to concentrate on what I liked to do best - helping people.
So, get out there. Help people. Encourage people to choose self-improvement every day, and to explore the world of opportunities at their fingertips. Life is exciting. It is there for the taking, but it doesn't usually happen in the living room, whilst watching re-runs.
However, sometimes it might happen in the bedroom!
Well for me anyways, it is my workroom of choice. I love sitting, propped up with pillows and with my laptop on my lap. I sometimes fall asleep like that.
You see, you can take it too far the other way too. There's that saying: "All work and no play".
There is a balance to be had in life. I'm not sure I have mastered that part yet.
To counter that, I do try and do things every day that allow me to feel all sorts of different emotions, to feel alive and not like a zombie. I go outside, feel the air on my face, take a moment to savour my cup of tea, call my mum up and tell her I love her.
WHAT IS YOUR DREAM?
Remember, opportunities and doors open when you start to venture out of your comfort zone. For me, I wrote an ebook that an internet marketer really liked, and he agreed to promote it, and it has literally changed my life. My own dreams are in reach, rather than pebbles lost on the beach, but most of all I have the confidence (most of the time) to reach for them and start to reel them in.
But, those dreams started on Steemit, and without Steemit the above would not have happened. After all, Steemit is what I wrote about. Steemit opens doors.
My current dreams are to be debt free (entirely possible when SBD rises), be in a position to help people achieve their dreams, which I am doing here on Steemit, behind the scenes and as an internet marketer. And, eventually to move somewhere nice in the country, where the girls can have a bedroom each and we can have as many pets as we’d like. I’d also like a chauffeur.
You know what?
You can make it happen too. There is a door for you, if you but look.
But, you are not likely to see it if you stay in your comfort zone.
One of the worst wasters of time is regret. You can't change the ones that already took place, but you can make sure future ones don't happen by taking steps, however small or big, to live the life you were destined to live.
Some thought-provoking questions to ask yourself could be:
- How do I want people to remember me?
- What will be written on my tombstone?
- If there were no limitations, what would I want to do?
- What am I good at?
- What did I like to do as a child?
- What are you willing to fight for?
- How would you save the world?
I hope to see you in the twilight zone soon.
Written by @hopehuggs with <3
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This post really got me /: I’ve been thinking about it quite obsessively lately. About certain cases when someone is so passionate about something, but his parents/friends/teaches/ society discourage him to pursuit his dreams because it’s not practical and it’s not good for gaining money.
I want to believe that when someone is so passionate about something, he will do his best in his work and that must be worth it at the end. And I know money is important- but just like u wrote, what do we really want to reach at the end of our lives? What do we want written on out tombstones?
The people who encouraged you to go study something ‘safer’ did it because they wished for the best for u, but how can someone else define what’s gonna be better for u? Money is important in our world, but to what extent should we let it lead us through life?
Ever since I can remember writing and books were the best things in my life. Ever since I remember all I heard was that; it’s just a hobby, not a real job, not practical, etc.
It takes a lot of nerve to stand and say, “I dont care. I am going to do my own thing and rock it.”
It certainly does take a lot of nerve and a modicum of belief in yourself, but ride that passion and forget what the world says, do what you want to do.
You don't have to drop everything to do it, just make a commitment that it will be something that you take a step towards every day. Even if it is just 5 minutes.
“Ride that passion and forget what the world says.” - wow, it’s beautiful. To believe and to commit is the way to go ;) thank you for reading and commenting!
One of the major requirements of achieving sucess in life is by leaving one's comfort zone and take calculative risks.
As humans that we are, our feeble minds pus alot of fears in us against taking risk. And from history, those that achieved sucess had or created a brave heart for themselves to achieve their feats.
Quite an inspiring piece you just shared. Many kudos to you.
My dream presently is to see SBD rise to 10 US Dollars, it may seem hard, but i am very optimistic.
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That is my dream too @factism. I am hopeful for SBD being worth $10 too. It's been there before.
I will share my thoughts about your post and hopefully ad something of value to everyone's life. Living in your comfort zone is really proof of living as a liar. What lie is so bad that if prevents yo from being you. Who is the liar that prevents one from realizing who they are.
The liar is merely acting out their fears. The Liar is both your strongest enemy and your stoutest friend. At some point one realizes that the greatest lie the Liar tells is that I am not good enough. I am not strong enough. I can't this and I can't that.
Some people realize that the liar lie's because they lack love. Who is the enemy of my life? Why it is I. Why don't I love myself, because I believed myself? Change the story to what ever your want. Make the Liar your friend and lover and s/he will stop being a Liar and you can live life!
Nice post!
It is in my opinion a half-life, I see so much potential in people but it is a decision that is up to them, not me.
Someone is in control of your life! it is just a matter of whether it is going to be who you are or?
Hi. Defining comfort as comfort.
It sounds alarming as from distant postures comfort is questioned, as a comfort of the human being not to drive beyond the routine. In Plato's cave, it is the most philosophical example. From the point of view of behaviorism, we have the domesticated elephant that is not able to escape because it does not have the strength to escape.
Then a question arises: is comfort or is the belief that makes the individual stay in his chair watching the movie with an empty stomach and lost dreams?
Currently, I live in a country where due to a political struggle I have been denied the right to have a quality of life. Understand quality, having at my reach the conditions of health, labor and economic welfare, housing and others. That is, my life project was deleted, I depend on the context.
It is another question: is it for convenience what I am living in the country that saw me born, grow and train?
It is a lot of cloth to cut and without thread.
The truth is that Steemit has given me an opportunity to leave and not exactly my comfort. I broke the rope that tied the elephant and opened a window to the cavern.
Thank you, friend ... Your post once again, gave me the opportunity.
All steps in the right direction, I hope Steem helps in every way that it can <3
hopehuggs yes you are right steem is a best platform provide start from free investment to a big earning .its so cool
comfort zone is a trap, it's like you're inside the zoo and you need to get out the hell in there and go to the jungle learn how the survival of the fittest works and become wild and free. :)
I like that analogy, let's all go have fun in the jungle :)
yes, i'll play as a comodo dragon :)
@adsactly, thanks for sharing. Most people complain things aren't happening for them because they have refused to leave their comfort zones. We need to learn to challenge ourselves daily with something new. Outdo your past, break your own limits. Dare to challenge yourself.
@cortexx, I agree. It's a trap
All successful person leaves their comfort zone and they were not afraid to fail, they learn out of their failure to persevere more and push forward to achieve their goal. Successful people were mostly a great risk taker!
The knowledge of death lessens the small fears holding us back from achieving the life we want.
@thedreamflow, we need to try and live our lives as much as we can before we die. We all have a limited time and we should never forget that.
Richard Brandon failed epically before he made his money! I took a risk and quit my job to go travelling it was amazing!! First @esteem post =]
@Steemingmark, that is awesome - I am in pursuit of my dreams too, but I know I have to do it a little differently to the rest in my niche.
Good luck!!
calculated risk is a risky method.
@elizahfhaye, Yes. Failure is a good thing. You just keep picking yourself up and do it differently the next time till you get it right.
That was an awesome article.
But one thing that popped up in my mind while reading your last few articles is that why don't you reply to the comments on your articles?
Maybe you are a bit too much absorbed in your work?
personally, as the author of this particular ADSactly post, I do reply to my comments. I am just about 3 days behind on my own blog at the moment. Its next on my to do list today. I'm sure that other contributors do similar.
I just wanted to know if anybody reads comments here or not. You wrote a great post.
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the more we struggle the more we progress that is why we should leave our comfort zone
Struggles are often what makes us strong.
I agree
Great read, its so true though I spent years in a dead end job not really going anywhere all because change was hard and slightly uncomfortable. It's incredible how easy it is for lief to slip by when your sitting in your on bubble of comfort. If you do not challenge yourself every day you cannot move forward!
I am almost 40 and I wish I made this realization a few years back, but can't turn back the clock, so no point dwelling on it, I have a life to live!
Exactly! Live life to the fullest and try to live in the moment! (by the way you absolutely do not look like you're nearly 40 haha)
Wow, I am inspired, for real the world is Waiting for our manifestation. Is it very important one is going somewhere than going nowhere. When you are very comfortable in your comfort zone you won't see the little light shining beyond your comfort zone. Nice script worth publishing.
There is a whole new world beyond the comfort zone
Exactly @hopehuggs