6 powerful insights to improve your life by Bob Proctor

1 - We become what we think about

The mind is the most powerful tool that we have as humans. You may believe that the major job of your mind is to work in our favor. Although this is generally true, it is not always the case because the mind can work against us at times.

Even an athlete who has worked hard all year can be paralyzed by fear of failure before a tournament. The athlete's confidence is eroding as their mind unravels unfavorable beliefs. It takes a conscious effort on the part of the athlete to rid his or her head of negative ideas.

2 - Don't allow the outer world dictate what goes on inside your head.

Our inner world, our thoughts, and our emotions are all influenced by the outside environment.

Our parents and grandparents are the most important figures in our lives while we are children. We yearn to be accepted into a specific group of friends as teenagers, and we seek approval from our peers. We choose our friends, life partners, and set healthy boundaries with our parents as adults.

This can be difficult for some of us depending on our emotional profiles. You can seek expert help if you don't know how to limit how much the outer world can affect and govern your inner world.

Learn how to express your emotions in a healthy way and free yourself from the influence of others.

Repressing emotions for a long time, as Gabor Maté argues in his best-selling book When the Body Says No, leads to emotional stress, which is connected to disease and illness.

Decide who you are and what you want to do, and don't let anyone else influence you.

3 - Concentrate on what you want to accomplish.

What do you want to accomplish in life? Concentrate your efforts once you've decided what you want to do.

Make a strategy for getting there, write it down on a piece of paper, and decide on the resources you'll need to carry it out.

People around you will be keen to offer their thoughts about your objectives. Some may support you, while others may try to ridicule you. Don't pay attention to them! Maintain your focus on the prize and work your way towards it.

4 - Don't be discouraged by criticism.

Criticism entails concentrating solely on the problem and identifying the flaws. Criticism is tough to deal with, and the individual receiving it may become discouraged and have their self-confidence broken.

People who criticize are usually well-intentioned, but they are unaware that if they want to help, they should give feedback rather than criticism. Feedback considers both the positive and negative aspects of a situation and offers suggestions for change.

According to Bob Proctor, the easiest approach to deal with criticism is to react calmly and say thank you; but, I do not chose to do so. If you don't react calmly, it's probably due to a lack of self-esteem.

That's where you should begin your journey: by laying a firm foundation for yourself, one in which your self-esteem aids you in staying on course.

5 - Have faith in yourself.
You must believe in yourself before others will believe in you. Recognize your abilities and work to improve them.

Once you understand your strengths, you may be confident in your abilities and the field in which you specialize. Love yourself and have a healthy sense of self-awareness. The first person you should make friends with is you.

6 - Reminiscing about the past is depressing.
Living in the past harms your future and makes it difficult to appreciate the present. It's natural to have nostalgic feelings for the good old days.

However, if you find yourself telling old stories to your pals every time you get together for drinks, it's a sign you should take a step back and think about it.

Examine your language to see if you commonly use should and shouldn't statements. I should have been a successful lawyer by now, with children, and a higher salary.

Should statements are self-punishing techniques that can cause fear, anxiety, and even depression. Practice awareness to stop this destructive behavior — it's healthier and helps you break the emotional barrier of should statements.

You might be reminiscing about your blunders in the past. They're not errors, though; they're choices. Your motives for making such judgments were correct at the time.

It's the decision you made based on the facts you had at the time. You will feel empowered once you realize this, and you will finally be able to let go of the past.