War (or confrontation) is the last resort of diplomacy.
Once all the mediation instances have been exhausted, then the repliesalias must be addressed.

Before processing or giving a request for a divorce, the Judge must exhaust the mediation instances between the couple in order to conclude that the relationship is over.

It is always good and necessary to try to mediate. Although there are cases that can be determined with only a general view of previous events.

This is a very complete article that you have presented to us, appreciated @clayrawlings.