thanks @nomadicsoul. what a great response. I've met quite a few people with poltergeist experiences. not all bad either. the dead person dreams are something I've had many of.. in fact my very first proper lucid dream started with me picking up my Mum's dead Aunt from the airport and "remembering that she was dead already". My dreams can easily become like Inception. Supernatural subjects have long been a fascination for me. So have the compound areas of the improperly understood boundaries of perception as they relate to psychology. So, my entire story as written here could indeed be a total, collective misinterpretation of reality. (I rather doubt that)