Hello and welcome! You have a huge family you must have lots of potlucks!!! Since you are new I thought I might share with you how Steemit works to gain rewards. I’m still new and by all means don’t have it down perfect, but I thought it might help. If you found it helpful , your more than welcomed welcome to vote up.
https://steemit.com/steem/@pancheta13/overwhelmed-newbies-i-feel-your-pain