You're instincts were right to get away. That's a toxic controlling relationship. If they raised you right,like they believe, then they should trust in thier teachings will develop fruit. Telling grass to grow doesn't make it happen on your terms, no matter how bad you want it. As a father of three young men it's important to provide guidance and wisdom without shoving it down their throats. I've got the best kids a man could deserve whom have a solid foundation and are allowed to think for themselves. This has resulted in an open and honest environment for communication. Do we all agree on everything?? No way, but then we wouldn't be individuals if we did. It was a tough move but a good one. Hang in there.