RE: Meet a Lintilla
It is definitely NOT safe to say that something went wrong for me to "end up" in camming. It's a job that fits my talents, and suits my preferred lifestyle. I've done other jobs. I could do them again. I choose not to.
Very few camgirls do their job simply for pleasure, sure. But very few people do ANY job simply for pleasure. They may choose something related to their personal interests, but I think they also hope to be paid! And in that case, providing a product or service to others, no one can just do 100% what they want (not all of the time, anyway, and most have significantly LESS freedom in that respect than I do!) No, I do not have a "fetish" for doing taxes, dealing with rude customers, working long hours because business is slow one week but I still have bills, or providing shows that aren't always completely in line with my personal tastes.
Camming the JOB is different from camming for pleasure, you have to realize (and many don't--so many guys seem to think most of us are logged in for shits and giggles--I'm constantly being asked "what do you do for a living"...) For the record, I started out camming long before I was ever paid for it, and I have and DO post pictures or cam with people in my personal life, and enjoy it. Plenty of other jobs have a "professional" vs. a "hobby" version. Most of them don't get as much shit or looked down upon if they dare to express that they don't love everything about the career version as those in the adult industry do.
There are also plenty of people in other lines of work who chose their career based largely on income, instead of a particular interest. For some reason that's just peachy for them, but when it's a camgirl it's a terrible thing. Ridiculous double standard, if you ask me. If I was totally asexual but happened to have a knack for and chose to do camming anyway for the money and/or other benefits that suited me (and such people do exist), so what? Something still wouldn't have had to "go wrong" for me to make that decision. And if I absolutely hated my job, but it was providing for me, it's still no worse than anyone else who works a job they hate. Lucky for me, I don't happen to hate my job.
Ok, I find this a very interesing exchange, but I need to know if you see this the same way or as an inappropriate attack against you as a person. It happened to me twice already here on the platform that I misread the situation completely and then came the accusations and the flagging... In case of the latter just tell me and I will leave you alone.
No, I certainly don't see it as an attack. People are always thinking I'm offended, but really I can just be very forceful in the way I state certain things (I don't know if that's the best word, but it's about bedtime for me and a better one isn't springing to mind). As far as that goes... anyone would definitely know if I was offended by something. I'd just go ahead and say so.
I'm also pretty sure I went off on a tangent or two there that weren't at all related to anything you even personally said. Just stuff that tends to come up sometimes. I often just get a rant going... I should probably make a more coherent post out of it, one of these days. But I'm more likely to post about my Cryptokitties in the very near future :P
Good to know. Todays safe-space society freaks me out. You never know, where you're at..
I can imagine, you're used to justifications about your profession and I don't mind you defending yourself (it read a bit as if you were trying to defend it not in front of me, but towards yourself). Anyway, what I am interested in is the dissolvement of intimacy that you are living with your job. I believe this is the biggest difference to "normal" careers, where giving up parts of your intimacy may be a part (e.g. nursing), but only for a utility reasons. As cam girl on the other hand, you pretend-share intimacy with strangers and make it public which means, you give it up. Some time ago, I had a conversation with @samstonehill, who for some time worked as porn director and also acted in some. He said, this broke down all moral boundaries. And isn't being a camgirl demanding the same? That it is as normal as selling bread, but to the price of you losing basic morals because of the loss of intimacy? It's hard to believe, you never had a moment, when you crossed this line and considering the general development of our postmodern www-addicted society, I do wonder if this is maybe even the new normal: Lacking even the feeling of having lost intimacy and just being in public like you are standing in your shower or something alike...
Good night at 12am in Arizona?
You will probably have more success with that than debating the social aspects of camgirling;-)
LOL. No, I'm not defending anything, least of all to myself. I'm not conflicted over here. Zip as far as inner turmoil, as much as people would like to think I can't possibly not be eaten up inside. There's nothing that requires any defending, and I couldn't give a damn if anyone disapproves. So that's not how I'd frame it at all. I'm just telling you that I think you're wrong. It's what the internet's all about :P
There is no loss of intimacy involved. I don't see how that's something that can be "taken". I still have as much to share as I want. Nor do I think "intimacy" is in any way more precious than anything other jobs require, whether it be physical strength, mental skills, whatever. All of which are equally not gone in any way at the end of the day--hell, you'll have improved those skills each day by practicing them (intimacy is definitely a skill). (Personally I think the camming I do is a much more physically demanding job than one requiring intimacy, most days, and I'm the one in the position to know here.)
I don't know what loss of morals you're referring to, either, but it sounds like you have different standards than I do. Fine by me. My job would be less lucrative if it was less taboo, but I have no personal moral issues with it, nor with showering in public (although I'd probably choose not to in most cases). Keeping things private or being intimate with only a few are personal preferences. I don't see anything immoral about sharing more, if someone chooses to. And I'm very private about certain things. My things just may not match those of others.
It's about 9:30am here in Arizona, and yeah, that's bedtime for me today. Nighty night!