Still being a newbie on Steemit, I would like to start with a series that can show what I do career wise and what I can offer to the Steemit community. For the first month on Steemit, my post will be an introduction to Ask Owlie (hence the "introduce yourself" tag). The post will include different aspects of life and social skills I learned through out my career. Enjoy~Allison Nechelle~

Balance Life Series: How to Find Meaning and Purpose: The Six: Secret 3 and Secret 4

Continuing with the balance life series, last post I discussed finding your meaning and purpose. The last post focused on the first 2 skills: Commitment and Hope which you can read here: https://steemit.com/life/@askowlie/article-2-meaning-and-purpose

1. Calm: Humans are emotional beings. We at times react first instead of calmly responding. This can derail a lot of our progress or cause other problems that can stop a person's goals (In future post I will explain the difference between reacting verses responding). We let our emotions get the best of us to where we lose our commitment to our purpose. Staying calm when life hands you rotten fruit can be the difference between spending endless energy on situations you have no control over or giving you that extra push you need to continue with your meaning and purpose. Has losing your calm caused you to lose sight of your goals?

(image http://www.gqlaw.com/10-ways-successful-people-stay-calm/)

1. Integrity: The standard definition of integrity is “the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles”. Having integrity also means to do the right thing if someone is watching or if someone is not watching. Sometimes when we are in the routine of life we compromise our integrity just to survive. How does this effect your meaning and purpose? If you are committed to a purpose, your behavior will also show your commitment. However, when you lack integrity, your behavior -changes which- can change your purpose. You may start to commit yourself to a different purpose that does not line up with your core values or beliefs. This can cause a person emotional drain to where they become upset or angry. This upset or anger can cause them to lose their calm or become short in conversions or basic situations.
   (image https://livinganewthought.com/2015/12/08/so-you-think-youre-angry/)

Why? Because they have not met certain expectations they set due to not keeping their integrity. That person will take out their anger out on the world (friends, family, co-workers). In truth under that anger is disappointment, shame or guilt because they have lost their core sense of integrity. Have you compromised your integrity to where you gave up on your purpose in life?

Each 6 skills works with each other and can help you figure out your meaning and purpose. Next post I will share secret 5 and 6. Happy finding!

Hello my name is Allison Nechelle and thank you for taking time to read my post. What to know more about me? Head over to my introduction post: https://steemit.com/introduceyourself/@askowlie/hello-i-m-allison-nechelle

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Caring Hearts Build The Warmest Nest~ Allison Nechelle~