Accountability is something I very much want to teach my children, but it can be so hard for them to see why they should take it on when the examples that so many others are giving are that you can get bailed out or even rewarded for bad choices instead.
Yes, it is difficult. Homeschooling made a big difference for my kids. Also my son's all took Martial Arts. That went a long way to developing discipline, as well. My middle son went all the way to 2nd degree black belt, and became a karate instructor. He is doing something else now, but it was very molding for him!
I haven't always homeschooled. I only started when I reached my wits end with the schooling system. In a way it's been good for them to see both the school system and homeschooling, but I do see a difference in those who have always been homeschooled. They don't have the same insecurities. However, I also see a difference between my girls and other schooled girls their age and they are certainly making better choices.
Thank you for telling me about your son. My youngest does gymnastics which also requires some discipline. She's entering her teen years and not sure she wants to continue, but now I'm sure she should while we can afford it. Teens are a tough time and I think something like this can help them keep focus to get through it.
Yes, my other son was a hip hop dancer, and taught gymnastics. Sounds like you are doing real good. Not an easy climate to raise kids in!