Why do men lie?

Now listen and listen good

One of the problems we have among women is that at times you do not want to be told the truth. Some of you are aroused by partial lies. The number of women I have met who have told me 'I knew he was lying but I kinda liked what he said' have been many. Many of you are seduced by sweet lies and that is one of the reasons that men opt to tell you half truths.

But here is the FACT.... Men are not born liars, their surroundings and the rules of engagement condition them to be expert liars or just plain pathological liars.

During the early years of courting, in our teens, when our hormones are all over the place. We easily fall for a girl (we fall for anything with a pulse to be honest) then we open up our hearts and tell her we like her or love her, we buy her flowers, we buy her ice cream and write love letters (my generation did), we sing to her (hoping we have a voice), we buy her pizza and after all this effort.... she bails. Some of the girls are so put off that they report back to their girls:

1)He is so soft, he bought me flowers
2)He is so immature, he told me he loved me hahahaha....

The boy is heart broken then life and his older relations sit him down and show him the ropes on how to get a woman's attention. He is told to stop being loving and grow some balls (despite already having over sized balls). It is utter confusion but in time with good tutors you graduate.

If men were to act like men most would not get laid.

That cookie aka 'Asset Investment' between your thighs is extremely attractive to us men and unfortunately majority of men will say and do whatever they can to gain access.

Women say 'I wish a man could just spell it out and tell me what he really wants'

But the truth is, that sentiment is only true to some women, actually a few. Most want to be charmed and told sweet nothings, those sweet nothings is where most of your problems start. You are basically forcing a man to lie to you (tell you what you want to hear). That is when the complaints registry is filled out....

1)He is a player
2)He used me
3)Aki I feel dirty
4)After all that talk, he 'came' and fell asleep
5)He couldn't feel him inside me
6)Imagine I woke up only to find uber fare
The list goes on....

If you want to avoid the above be practical thinkers. Allow a man to tell you the truth. If he tells you out rightly that he is sexually attracted to you don't dismiss him if you actually fancy him. After all even those subtle 'gentleman-ish' men also want sex, they just use a different tactic to get between your legs.

Then again, it's also down to the breed of you men you engage with. Wouldn't it be great to socialise with a guy, sleep with him and he still picks up your calls or replies to your Whatsapp messages (but don't Whatsapp me 40 messages that make look mad). Courting should not be a struggle. It should be fun, easy going without unnecessary expectations.

Do you realise there are couples who have dated for 10 years and are still fucking each other's brains out while you have only been married for 3 years and your sex life is being viewed in some Museum. Change your mind set and explore new avenues of courtship with like minded people.

#ThinkingALoud