MEN ARE NOT THE SOURCE OF PROBLEM!

I was asked, why are men the source of problems for us women.....

Correction, men are not the source of the problem(s) and neither are women.

The problem is that both parties enter into a collaboration which we call a relationship with various motives and agendas.

Within that collaboration there are unsaid expectations, for the woman in most cases it's a long term reasoning (unless she is equipped to handle a fling with no strings attached).

The euphoric stages of a relationship are always fun but when the dust settles, the truth gradually reflects when they realise their futuristic mind sets towards the relationship are not mutual.

It is just unfortunate that a massive segment of society 'especially the African setting' where people are conditioned to believe a relationship must elevate into marriage, especially women. Not all but majority. And it is true to the majority women that a certain degree of bonding that involves intimacy must lead to marriage, said who, and why! Marriage is not Bliss (and you can ask many married women) if you and your partner are not friends with mutual goals to experience life together. You must have the craving to want to see the same face for the rest of your life, love and marriage won't help in making it any better. True, genuine friendship will make you prevail and that is the ingredient that functional couples have. And they are the few in the realm of marriage.

And it's not male chauvinism, I deal with facts of social dynamics. If they seem to favour the male species, well blame the same society that makes up the rules and still believes that your role as a woman is still in the kitchen despite the obvious fact that women are doing far better than men in many sectors. I don't sell HOPE, I just deliver facts.