I think you‘re totally right that sex is used nowadays as a mean to measure manhood and power. Me as a woman I would sometimes feel relieved if my boyfriend was a bit more relaxed about this sex delusion. I mean I DO love sex, it’s important in a relationship but cuddling without sex is also wonderful! Important, It‘s not just the sex which is used to measure manhood and power. It‘s also the fitness delusion! Nobody can tell me that all this protein stuff and this excessive training is good for you! Better you do a spirt you really love. Love yourself the way you are, your girlfriend does love you too just the way you are!