Big weekend for some close friends... ** Sensitive Topic: Transgender**

in #hottopics7 years ago (edited)


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Sensitive Topic

I had several FB friends who found themselves in a very serious, heated discussion this past weekend, which started with an article posted about actress Rose McGowan, who recently had an appearance at a Barnes & Noble bookstore to promote her book, Brave. I believe the book is her account of the harassment she has had to deal with, in trying to gain fame in Hollyweird, in light of the still current #MeToo movement and Rose's personal experience.
This is one article that started the ensuing debate.

https://www.dailydot.com/irl/rose-mcgowan-transphobic-rant-metoo/?fb=dd&llid=Gr8Ye&ls=dd&type=cpc&campaign=Gr8Ye
Source: Dailydot.com

So before I continue, I will state categorically that I am not phobic. I accept all people for who they are. I try my hardest to love people unconditionally. Some people will point out that seems like a contradictory statement but there are people who are leeches, takers not givers, and treat others as their doormat... I'm not yet a master lol, so I'm still trying to figure out how to include them, for me personally.
Hopefully that statement makes clear that my intent is not to attack anyone here for their choices.
My aim is in all honesty, to try to gain as best an understanding as I possibly can.
I feel bad for people who innocently start conversations, which quickly turns into heated debate and end not being heard at all. Social media is wonderous in its capacity to bring people closer together than ever before, but words are very quickly seperating us too. People don't write letters anymore!!! Our vocabularies are not what they once were; we had words for everything. Using verbal communication and inflection in our voices slowly let our brains let go of a myriad of words that our society used in dictaton for hundreds' of years. Simply put, words fail us today.
We're also living in a time where the majority of people are accepting of everyone else, but still feel like we are walking on eggshells in terms of PC terms. I find writing this extremely difficult because I want to be true to myself in my view, but worry that someone will read my thought as something entirely different and read it the wrong way. People are saying one thing and someone sees that as a blanket statement to cover everything regarding that topic.
It's just getting frustrating trying to understand something you don't, and getting harassed for not already understanding.

There was a second article I was grateful to be shown, also regarding the original event involving Rose McGowan, shown in an entirely different light than the first article. I should point out this second article was written by a trans woman. I liked this article much better too. You'll find links here:
https://medium.com/@cassiebrighter/a-call-to-all-trans-activists-to-publicly-disavow-andi-dier-over-her-verbal-attack-if-rose-mcgowan-ad0225140e91
Source: Medium.com

The hot debate on my friends' thread seemed that 2 or more women were 'haters' and there were 2 or more other women who were 'teachers', for lack of better terminology (words failing me, right here lol) but after reading all the comments, which took me a couple hours, all I could see were women arguing for the same side. This is where I believe language is beginning to fail us. I don't believe the women who were thought of as the haters, actually meant any harm or ill will.

My Limited Viewpoint

I can only share that part of me I have experienced in my lifetime, this time around.
I have never doubted or questioned the body and gender God assigned me in this lifetime, I am lucky for never having that struggle. I also believe in reincarnation. My personal belief is that we have all been both male and female in previous carnations, and that is part of the reason for how we can 'identify' more strongly with a sex or gender. Personally, I do not believe that God made any mistakes with the body you were 'given' in this cycle. I believe that we are here to gain a better understanding of 'all that is' in cycles, as ALL the information in the Universe is astronomically vast and far too much information to take in, in a single life cycle. Just me. I believe that it is possible to have been a man in your previous life, and say you abused women. In this lifetime, you came back as a woman to understand better what it was like to be the 'victim' of the same abuse you gave out as a man and this is your lesson. But even though you were born female, you still identify as the male you were in your previous life... and instead of embracing what this lifetime may be supposed to be teaching you, you are rejecting that lesson.
No matter what correct terminology we use, a person who is born handicapped has no other choice but to embrace that handicap. God says we should not feel sorry for that soul. That soul CHOSE that body, that handicap, that limitation, for a purpose. A purpose that will serve THAT soul. It is not a mistake.
In that context, I have a hard time understanding how anyone is so averted from what God gave them, that they don't feel complete or whole in the body they were given. This is not a hate statement. I lack understanding because I've accepted being a female, with a vagina and all that entails, in this life. This body cannot bear me children. Do I feel less than a woman because of that? HELL YES, I do. I struggle all the time that my body is somehow 'broken' and is incapable of doing the most amazing thing on this earth: create life. That is something I cannot accept, it's my deepest wound. I've longed for years to know what it feels like to have life growing in my body. I think it is devastating for some of us to not know what that experience is like, and I envy all women who have that gift.
I often joke that I must've had a dozen kids in my last life and I'm so used to 'nurturing' that I feel lost without them...
I do not understand the struggles of what it's like to question your identity, but that doesn't mean I hate you.
I can comprehend and understand that transpeople do not make this decision easily or lightly and that it must be an unimaginably difficult road to travel.
I feel like this is truly only scratching the surface of a huge topic, and barely causes a dent but I want to bring more light to this because no matter what, we do need to start embracing each other.
But embracing each other means that people who've accepted they're different should stop bashing people who are ok with being born who they were too.
It needs to be ok straight. white. whatever!!!
Stop hating each other. The Establishment is winning when they keep us attacking each other. We Are One.

Let's talk about this.

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