"Are Dowries Dehumanizing, [30/06/2024]
A glimpse of my understanding of dowry
Dowry is one of the most important things for anyone who wants to get married, of course each couple has a different way of doing the dowry depending on the culture in their respective regions.
If the dowry is an important factor, perhaps this has become a provision in law, both religious and state, because everything will be determined by the laws of each region.
Share your understanding of the concept of “Inhuman dowry”.
Indeed, what we know is that every couple is obliged to determine the presence of a dowry as a condition for the validity of the marriage in religion. However, in religion it is also not determined by the amount of the dowry, because the dowry is only a condition for the validity of the marriage for each couple. From this law we can conclude that marriage is actually which has been determined by law never makes one of the parties oppressed by the provision of the dowry amount.
However, what is happening nowadays, like in my country, is that brides determine the dowry at an amount that is truly inhumane, so this makes men have to work hard to achieve this. If we imagine this has happened a lot, it will happen a lot. Providing dowries by women is no longer humane,
What items are requested as dowries in your community?
Getting to know the dowry requested, generally in my country there are only two types, namely in the form of gold items which have been determined with an amount agreed upon by both families of the bride and groom, and for the second item, namely in the form of a sum of money with a price that is adjusted to the price of gold at the time. That.
So these are the two items that I generally see in my country, which are the benchmark for determining items as dowry for every wedding that will soon take place.
Should Dowry be considered a Social Evil? Explain
In essence, dowry is an obligation in every marriage, but there is no element of crime there, because in religious law it has been determined as a condition of marriage, namely the availability of dowry for the prospective bride and groom,
If this dowry is used as a way to earn money and goods, then that will break the law that has been determined by humans themselves, and what an impression it will be that this is a crime modified by humans themselves.
What should be considered as a dowry solution? Expatiate.
Recognizing dowry, it is something that is a polemic in the lives of people who are old enough to get married, so many people feel stressed and anxious if they are unable to provide a high dowry for their partner, so that sometimes they fail to get married.
A high dowry is one of the obstacles for every couple who wants to get married, and can delay the time to get married, so in this case, perhaps for a solution in this dowry, each couple must have their own agreement or there is no sense of ego in determining the dowry.
It's good that the dowry determined for those who want to get married is adjusted to the capabilities of the couple who wants to propose to their future bride. I think that is a good solution to overcome the dowry problem and make the marriage easier.
So friends, for my explanation in this contest, I hope it can be useful for everyone.
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@ustazkarim
What an interesting post! Thank you for sharing.
Paying a dowry is not something that we do in South Africa. What you will see here is the husband paying "labola" to the brides family before the wedding.
It is an African custom.
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Congratulations! This post has been voted through steemcurator04. We support quality posts, good comments anywhere and any tags.Yes it is necessary for the two partners to agree on the dowry payment but in part of my country here it is the kingmens and elders in your family that will decide what you will pay for the dowry.
Thank you for writing this and I wish you success.