seek for help contest 27/08/2022 by @udylove

Help in my own understanding is assistance given to someone in need. So seeking help is asking for assistance from another person which may be positive or negative because rendering help is a free will, something that you chose to or not to. It is positive when someone renders you the help you need and negative otherwise. So before you seek help you must identify a need which you are unable to satisfy or you can not sort it out yourself.Help comes in different dimensions either financially, physically, emotionally, healthwise, spiritually etc.Human beings as a whole need help even since creation. For that reason there's no man on earth that can boast that he or she has never sought help from another in one way or the other. In Fact seeking help is a lifestyle of humans. We need each other in life to achieve what we want. For example as a student you need a teacher, a businessman you need customers etc for that reason we need to treat each other with respect because you don't know where you might seek help from tomorrow.

I want to first of all appreciate Cameroon for coming up with this amazing challenge. I have sought help in my life many times from different people for different reasons but there's one which hit me so hard that I'd like to share and I believe someone somewhere will be inspired by it or rather probably learn from it .This contest gives me memories of an incident I had years back that affected me so badly. The result of help seeking was negative though but a lesson well learned from it.

Have you ever seek for help?

The answer is yes I have. I have sought help many times in my life because as a human you must seek help from another in one way or the other.

What was the reason for seeking help?

It was in the 2017/ 2018 academic year when I needed to write my advanced level.

A year that has caused me so much pain that even up till date I Still haven't fully recovered from the trauma. I actually started school that year but when time came for fee payment and registration for exams my father was financially down and never had complete money to do all that. . Then I reached out to some family members for help which I knew they could help me but to no avail. It's not like they never had money they had but deliberately refused to help me. Then I was traumatized because I never wanted to drop out of school. In fact that was something that had never crossed my mind but then I had no choice. I mean I couldn't do otherwise my father never had so I couldn't force him to do something he is incapable of. I left Bamenda that time to Douala insearch of money so I can support my father the next academic year. When I arrived Douala I had to involve myself in business from part of my fee money that I took from my father. I was doing transfers and selling little things like biscuits, sweets etc. I did it for sometime and the business started growing but eventually I failed out of business because I was duped. It will surprise you that the person that duped me was a father like mine and I believe he had children too. But then i never gave up i continued. This time around i decided to change the type of business .I took the little money i had left with me, used it and got some cosmetics to sell but this time around i was selling in villages out of Douala. I will buy, go out of town for some days, sell and come back. I wasn't alone, that was the good thing about it. We were three in number and that kept us going for some time. Imagine how it feels when you go somewhere you don't know anyone whereas you need shelter😫. It was really challenging though but i never gave up. There were some villages that were really far and we were using boats to get to such places.

They called it waterside and the main activity there was fishing. We could take 6hours of journey by boat to get to such places.

I only could bear the risk because I had an objective to attain. I did that for 3years and was able to save some money.It was really not easy but was successful though. It was indeed a great experience for me and that taught me a great lesson in life but thank God I bounced back. It was just a trial moment. Though sometimes I still feel some emotional trauma especially when I see where my classmates are today compared to me but then i believe i'm more stronger now.

A word of motivation

Therefore I encourage you brethrens if you've ever sought help but then were unable to get it, keep trying in your own way you can to help yourself out and not only depend on people for they might not give you. Whatever happens, always have In the back of your mind that God knows it all and he will definitely see you through.🙏🙏