Relationship Advice by /@nanc/ seven ways to improve your relationship 27/11/2021

Accept greetings from a fellow steemians who has come up relationship Advice. Hope everyone is doing great. Today on relationship Advice we shall be talking on the seven ways to improve your relationship.

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This are seven choice that can help improve your relationship and can turn falling relationship in successful one.

1. take responsibility for your self
   This is an important decision u can make for your self by learning how to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs. This means that instead of trying to get your partner make u feel happy and secure, u learn how to do it through your thoughts and actions. That is trying to treat your self with love and kindness, compassion and self acceptance instead of self judgement. Self judgement make someone feel insure and unhappy no matter how nice your partner is treating you.
   When we learn how to take full responsibility of our selfs Then we stop blaming our partners for our upset. Since blaming one's partner for unhappiness is the number cause of relationship problems. Learning how to love ourselves in a relationship is the vital key to a good relationship.
2. kindness, compassion and acceptance
   Treat others the way u want to be treated. This is the essence of spiritual life,we all want to be treated lovingly with kindness, compassion, understanding and acceptance. We need to treat ourselves, our partners and others this way. Relationship flourish when we treat each other with kindness. If your partner is unkind to you then you need to focus on what will be loving to your self rather than being angry, judgemental and blaming each other. Taking responsibility of yourself rather than blaming each other is the best thing u can do.
3. learning instead of controlling
   When conflict occurs you have two choices on how to handle it. You are open to learning more of yourself and your partner and discover the deeper issue of the conflicts. Trying to control in a relationship create more conflict. Control in a relationship should be base on improving the relationship. For example people have two measure fears in a relationship which are the fear of losing the other and the fear of losing ones self, when this fears are activated people turn to protect themselves with their controlling behavior. But if you choose to learn about your fears instead of trying to control your partner, your fears will eventually hill. This is how we grow emotional and spiritual by learning instead of controlling.
4. Create dates times
   When people first fall in love, they make time for each other. Then after getting married they get busy. Relationship needs time to strive. It is important to set time to always be together, to talk, play and even make love 😉😉😉😉. Relationship cannot be maintained without time together.
5. Gratitude instead of complaints.
   Positive energy flows among lovers when there is attitude of gratitude. Constant complain creat positive energy which is not fun to be around. Practice being great full for what you have than what u don't have. Complain creat stress while gratitude create inner peace.
   6)fun and play
   Learning without playing makes Jack a dull boy, any relationship without fun,makes it a dull relationship. Relationship flourish when people play together laugh together. stop taking everything serious and try to see the funny part of life.
6. service
   A wonderful way of create intimacy I to service project together. Doing service moves you out of yourself and your own problems and support a broader spiritual view of life.
   If you and your partner accept to this seven choices you will be amazed at the improvement of your relationship.
   Thanks very much for reading am very much open to any corrections and your own point of view.